Intimidation................

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Registered: 06-23-2006
Intimidation................
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Mon, 07-31-2006 - 12:08pm

Does a woman being vocal and/or up front about what she wants sexually early in the realationship intimidate you?

 

 

 

 

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 1:28pm
Intimidation or not, this is a very healthy discussion that SHOULD happen as early as possible and in some version continue throughout a relationship. Anyone that doesn't care to have such conversations should raise a red flag in the other party's mind. Gee, I wonder why you see so many execs on their 2nd or 3rd marriages? ;^)
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 1:48pm
Oh, not at all; in fact I welcome it. When I was younger, I didn't know how to initiate that kind of conversation, either about a woman's desire's or my own; they either happened or they didn't, depending on the way we happened to click, I guess. But if anything, I was intimidated by not having those conversations.
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Registered: 01-26-2005
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 1:52pm

Well I cant say for sure, although I was a "Blue Collar" Worker for a little while (Warehousing: couple of my friends actually poked fun at me because my name was sewn onto my uniform shirt LOL).

Corporate CEO's - These are men with power (or at least perceived as such) and arent used to ANYONE else taking control of the situation, and are more comfortable being in charge (they also tend to be arrogant, not always true but often enough)

Blue Collar Workers - These are men with skills, men who constantly need to learn new skills, and men who are used to being told what the job is and know all the steps to get the job done. So any woman who can tell one of these guys what it takes to "get the job done" is very atractive to these guys.

That is my theory anyway,
-k

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 3:16pm
It is a shame that we become smarter and better at dating as we age...the only problem - most of us are married by then! For instance, Last week I hit a bar with a buddy of mine. A woman ordered a drink behind me and as she brought it back to her she spilled some on me. This led to a 2-3 hour conversation that was a lot of fun. But within 40 minutes I learned that she could never be with a man that would not love going down on her and within 42 minutes she learned that my lover must not limit my access to any part of her body. These conversation CAN happen early. My buddy could not believe the things I was pulling from this woman that night. Frankly, neither could I. I think people are much more open today then ever before and those that enjoy frank and intelligent conversation about everything including sex are the only kind of people I could ever be with going forward.
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Registered: 07-03-2006
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 3:23pm
I am very white color. I love a woman who is not afraid to tell you what she wants. As long as it does not involve whips and chains!

 


 


 


 


 

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 8:04pm

...Just from experience..

I am a white collar person and so is my DH. Because of the position I hold, I am around people of my level or higher. I have to disagree with the assumption that Executives do not like sexually powerful women or women that know what they want and like. On the contrary, a woman that leaves it up to the man to guess or figure it out does not turn them on at all. Self assured women are not intimidating to them.

...Keep in mind that there is a difference between being a woman that is sexually strong, self assured, vocal about her wants and needs and being pushy or demanding....that is a turn off!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 1:16am

Hi, Willy.

 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 1:19am

Dh is white collar.