ITS HURTS SO MUCH!
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| Sat, 10-21-2006 - 2:00pm |
Recently, my boyfriend of over 1 year has told me that he wants to try anal sex. I always had an inclination to, so I consented. On the night we tried, we used plenty of lubrication and I convinced myself to relax while he attempted to penetrate me. However, he was unable to penetrate me more than 2 inches because the pain was excruciating for me. It hurt so much that I am unable to understand how other women are able to physically enjoy it. I want to try anal sex not only because I have a feeling it may be enjoyable after the first time, but I also want to satisfy my boyfriend's needs.
I feel like we did everything right (lots of lube, anal play, etc), which is why I cannot understand what the problem is. Is there something wrong with me? Do you recommend an anesthetic to dull the pain?

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Anal sex is a an art not not a science. It does take a bit of experimenting and learning to know what works. There are two questions that I have for you. The first question is how much time did you spend with anal play? Did he spend time streching out the anus to the point were it was flacid? If he only spent a few minutes streching and was only able to insert 1 finger then he did not spend enough time on it. I won't let my husband enter me until he is able to insert two if not three fingers.
The other quesiton I have is when he entered did he do it very slowly, stopping when you asked him to stop or did he just 'push it in'? Entry is also an art where it is like a symphony of you directing and him moving at the tempo you choose. When you first starting entry can take upto 5 minutes before he is fully inside of you and the first few time he may not be able to penetrate completely. Anal sex is something that needs to built up over time.
Ah, I'm sorry I can't help you - but I am about to try it and this made me so nervous!! Have you had any more recent success if I may ask? And what made the difference?? If you're getting good advice and feedback from other women, could you let me know?? We're in the same boat!
HS
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