I frequently rim DW when going down on her. It really gets me going, the naughty, forbidden aspect of it, the sensations, feeling her squirm etc. I love kissing her backside and slowly moving in on her anus. She used to just tolerate it, but now she really enjoys it, and will move herself into a position where I have easier access. I love licking her little starfish and inserting my tongue. Rimming will often lead to her asking for anal and I am more than happy to grant her wish! She has not rimmed me. I would enjoy it, and probably would climax just from that stimulation alone because it is something I fantasize about. She will play with my anus either while we have intercourse or while I am masturbating. I totally enjoy this type of stimulation and have hinted about her using toys on me as well. I am hoping to some day have her rim me, but for now I feel lucky she is into any anal play at all. I think rimming is on the menu tonight!!!
I'm not attacking you but if your lover is doing something to you that makes you feel good then why wouldn't you want to return that pleasure? thats like saying i wont do that because its disgusting but its ok if you do disgusting things to me.
Honestly, electricman, I thought the same thing. My particular sex-world view is that whatever you do to me, I ought to at least be willing to try to reciprocate. I've not yet rimmed SO, don't know if I'll like it. But *I* like it soooooo much when he does it to me that I want him to have that, too. It only makes sense...do for the other what they would love to have done to them.
But then, I realized, we each have the things we like to give and get. And they're not always the same thing. I loooooove to play with myself with him watching, for instance. He loves it too (understatement of the year, lol). I like watching him bring himself off. And he has, he's willing to if I ask, but it's not on his hit parade and that's cool with me.
So, maybe this is just another of those things. It's a more extreme sexual activity in some people's minds; definitely more taboo, and they may just need some more time to come around.
he did it once, i liked it but was so startled that i came across as not liking it. id like to do it again. :) but not give it, he doesnt want to receive it anyhoo though...
i think i need to clarify my position on this, i did not mean to imply that every act has to be repaid in the same way. heck my wife loves to have her toes sucked and i do not want anyone near my nasty's, however she would if i wanted her too. i guess i just get uptight when one partner is selfish in there love making. not that im implying that any of you are its just how i took that one post.
< i just get uptight when one partner is selfish in there love making>
I hear ya!!!!! I was married to the stereotypical selfish male lover for 17 years. I am now committed to one of the most generous men I've ever known. I get so sad sometimes if I think too much about all that I missed, all that I wasn't knowledgeable enough about or a forceful enough personality to effect a change.
But then, I figure....without those years??? I wouldn't be in the position to appreciate SO the way I do!!!!!
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I love both giving and receiving.
Honestly, electricman, I thought the same thing. My particular sex-world view is that whatever you do to me, I ought to at least be willing to try to reciprocate. I've not yet rimmed SO, don't know if I'll like it. But *I* like it soooooo much when he does it to me that I want him to have that, too. It only makes sense...do for the other what they would love to have done to them.
But then, I realized, we each have the things we like to give and get. And they're not always the same thing. I loooooove to play with myself with him watching, for instance. He loves it too (understatement of the year, lol). I like watching him bring himself off. And he has, he's willing to if I ask, but it's not on his hit parade and that's cool with me.
So, maybe this is just another of those things. It's a more extreme sexual activity in some people's minds; definitely more taboo, and they may just need some more time to come around.
Lucky
Lucky, I agree.
< i just get uptight when one partner is selfish in there love making>
I hear ya!!!!! I was married to the stereotypical selfish male lover for 17 years. I am now committed to one of the most generous men I've ever known. I get so sad sometimes if I think too much about all that I missed, all that I wasn't knowledgeable enough about or a forceful enough personality to effect a change.
But then, I figure....without those years??? I wouldn't be in the position to appreciate SO the way I do!!!!!
Lucky
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