Life as a swinger

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Life as a swinger
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Mon, 09-16-2013 - 6:51pm

TO ALL CONCERNED-

The last two Saturday nights, I have watched the new reality series about swingers in Atlanta, Georgia. The most common objections to swinging are 1)religious and moral, and 2)jealousy issues can come up. I thought of another problem. Swingers are always trying  to score with someone new. When I was single, I hated going to mixers, doing internet dating with all its frustrations, and disliked first dates that went nowhere. Being married and monogamous means not having to bother with all this!!! Being a swinger, however, this is an ongoing part of your life. When you do get lucky, then you move on to finding the next person.  It's a lot of effort for limited gain. Why doesn't all this deter people?

 

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Registered: 09-19-2013
Thu, 10-17-2013 - 3:01pm

Swinging isn't really like dating. Sometimes people get to know each other, but they often just play together because they're attracted to each other. In a lot of ways, that's a much easier type of relationship to manage. Isn't that the appeal of one-night stands? I like this piece about swingers that explains the lifestyle.

http://www.kinkly.com/2/1037/lets-talk-about-it/perspectives/how-i-became-a-swinger 

Kinkly.com

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Registered: 05-11-2014
Sun, 05-11-2014 - 7:52pm

Ummm...that's part of the fun. lol  Having new experiences and new partners is part of the fun and if you click then you often have repeat experiences.  Plus if there is a rejection or no one you are interested in you still have your partner to go home with so you never really strike out. ;)

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Registered: 01-19-2013
Wed, 07-09-2014 - 5:12pm

Life as a swinger is amazing, and my husband enjoy it immensely. We have been swinging for years. It requires alot of thought and discussion, to make sure you both are on the same page. Typically humans are not monogamists by nature. We become so, through human and social, or religious conditioning. My husband and I have embraced our sexuality, and honestly, it's a blast. We partake in swinging, and occassionally have our own encounters with others, without our spouse present, but always with people in our swinging community- usually swapping.