Maybe I should stop reading here?
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Maybe I should stop reading here?
| Fri, 03-17-2006 - 10:25am |
I REALLY like hanging out here but each time I read something else exciting and sexy, I get pissed as thats not happeneing to me and I can't do a damn thing about it! (Aside from cheat or leave my wife of course)
Just tried of not having any sexual fun and having the peak of my experience by surfing porn...which BTW I'm open for good site suggestions!
OK, so maybe I'm just a whiner and should go exercise at lunch instead of checking in here.
(But then again what good will exercising do as I'm already in shape and it doesn't matter to the misses)
OK, no more crying from me today...
Just tried of not having any sexual fun and having the peak of my experience by surfing porn...which BTW I'm open for good site suggestions!
OK, so maybe I'm just a whiner and should go exercise at lunch instead of checking in here.
(But then again what good will exercising do as I'm already in shape and it doesn't matter to the misses)
OK, no more crying from me today...

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Would you like some cheese with that wine?
From TM's posts it sounds like she has a much lower libido than he does. When she was extremely LL my DW didn't like sex and acquiesed in it about twice a month-prefaced by those awful words-"Just get it over with." TM"s wife sounds like my DW before her change in libido.
In short, extremely LL people do not like sex-and many actually find it revolting.
Yes, there is a CL issue in many relationships...some more severe. I had to seek therapy for it myself (DW would not go since she did not need two people beating up on her about sex...she feels we are who we are and that it is not a major part of a relationship). I don't recommend running over to the Clashing Libidos board here at ivillage. I lived there a while and I never found answers, just a place to vent. In fact, I started making really good progress with my wife and started posting what helped and just got beaten down. I let them all have it and said, "Fine, vent all you want, not going to get you anywere...outta here..." It may have changed though. It really takes true recognition on your wife's part and the only way that usually happens is self enlightenment and discovery...not hearing it from us DH's or DW's all the time. I think we can gently prod them though. I did recommend a book to her (said my therapist thought it was really good) and she read it and that prompted a lot of good activity from her. It was Great Sex for Moms : Ten Steps to Nurturing Passion While Raising Kids by Valerie Davis Raskin. She has fallen back to her old ways though and she is due for a reminder from me...as much as I hate to have that talk.
Now please...I am not bashing women in general here. In fact I really love most of the ones here! But there is a bad culture that is in the majority in this country.
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