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My date (not with DH either)
| Sun, 05-14-2006 - 7:21pm |
Ok, I post, well not often. I did post about a married man I work with (I am married, but we are open)
well, this married man (j we will call him) his wife went to floriday for 2 weeks...
OK, i will be honest, I really didnt expect anything at all to happen, we flirt and stuff (he tries to kiss me constantly at work, but I only let him kiss my cheek) well, Friday he dropped his wife off at the airport and came in to work and asked if I wanted to go out later.. I said sure. We had another co worker with us... (in the begining) we went out to a pub and spent a few hours... Then the other guy went home and it was just us. We drove around for a while (how juvenile... but he does have a minivan with no back seats...) OK, well... we parked and talked for a long time. He kissed me once and I pulled away and had a little talk. I dont agree with cheating... I really dont. I wouldent want to be cheatd on, I wouldent cheat (but dh and i are open, so its not a prob) so, I told him that his wife would not appreciate this, he said that he wont tell her, I said they always find out eventually.. and he finally agreed. I said, I really like him and if this is what he wants to do, he is an adult.. he can make those decisions.... he agreed.
I just dont want him to loose his life and act like he had no clue this would happen, KWIM?
Ok, so we went back to makin out and I said goodnight and went home.
no farther than that.
OH, he also said since it wasnt sex it wasnt really cheating, I said cheating is anything your SO considers cheating...
what do you guys/gals think?
OH GOD do I want to see him again, and would go all the way (i am soooo turned on right now thinking of it)
what do I do????? You guys gotta help me
Liz
well, this married man (j we will call him) his wife went to floriday for 2 weeks...
OK, i will be honest, I really didnt expect anything at all to happen, we flirt and stuff (he tries to kiss me constantly at work, but I only let him kiss my cheek) well, Friday he dropped his wife off at the airport and came in to work and asked if I wanted to go out later.. I said sure. We had another co worker with us... (in the begining) we went out to a pub and spent a few hours... Then the other guy went home and it was just us. We drove around for a while (how juvenile... but he does have a minivan with no back seats...) OK, well... we parked and talked for a long time. He kissed me once and I pulled away and had a little talk. I dont agree with cheating... I really dont. I wouldent want to be cheatd on, I wouldent cheat (but dh and i are open, so its not a prob) so, I told him that his wife would not appreciate this, he said that he wont tell her, I said they always find out eventually.. and he finally agreed. I said, I really like him and if this is what he wants to do, he is an adult.. he can make those decisions.... he agreed.
I just dont want him to loose his life and act like he had no clue this would happen, KWIM?
Ok, so we went back to makin out and I said goodnight and went home.
no farther than that.
OH, he also said since it wasnt sex it wasnt really cheating, I said cheating is anything your SO considers cheating...
what do you guys/gals think?
OH GOD do I want to see him again, and would go all the way (i am soooo turned on right now thinking of it)
what do I do????? You guys gotta help me
Liz

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LOL, grapes.....
:)
I ended it today for all interested parties. I am so glad for all of your advice. Which is what I knew to be true... and in the end, I am not one bit upset about it. I am pretty sure he feels releived as well.
All I did was tell him it would never happen... and we wont ever go out again like that. In a group, yes, alone, no. And, I told him he needs to re think his view on cheating. (he has a very Clintoesque view on what cheating is, in the way Clinton had on what sexual relations are..LOL)
We hopefully can be friends... As that is really what I want right now anyways.
Liz
tHANKS FOR YOUR UPDATE, IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU MADE THE RIGHT CHOICE.
Thanks a lot LM!
Today he (OM) asked me how long I was going to stay with DH, I said, well I cant be sure, but a long long time, I have no plans to leave him. OM said, but you guys let eachother outside of the marriage, that is a sign of imminent divorce... I said, no, its not.
What do you guys/gals think? (maybe I should post this in a thread on its own)
Liz
I know he wishes he had permission, but his wife would never consent.. and so neither can I. This week will be a little tough.... this is the last week I will be seeing him (his hours will change) but at least its only a week.
Liz
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