My first bi-sexual experience

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My first bi-sexual experience
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Sat, 04-12-2003 - 4:55pm
I'm having my first bi-sexual experience tomorrow night. It'll be with a friend I know and trust not to push my boundaries. The only thing I might be hesitant to do is give her oral, but I intend to try. Do you have any tips for me? I'm not too nervous about it, but I'm sure I will be.

Looking forward to your suggestions.

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Sat, 04-12-2003 - 6:55pm
WooHoo Secret Rose,

Congrats, I know this is something you have wanted for a while now.

I never had any hesitancies preforming on another female because it was something I wanted and enjoy doing. I hope you will feel the same way. As for as what to do, think about what feels good for you. Most women love the same thing. Feel free to ask her what she likes so that you can please her.

As a bisexual woman, there is nothing more disappointing than an encounter with someone who loves to receive but not give. Since this is a friend you know and trust, I would be honest if you are hesitant. I'm sure she will make you feel comfortable.

Remember to practise safe sex, yes even female to female. STD's can be transmitted between female to female, mouth to genitals and visa versa.

juststef

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Registered: 04-23-2003
Sun, 04-27-2003 - 4:42pm
Good for you!

I hope this 'encounter' was what you were looking for, but in my experience it is always nice to talk and cuddle a lot first. I am a bit shy and don't usually make the first move, but just getting closer and closer until the first kiss happens is what sparks it for me. Then, I tend to let loose.

I'm the type of person who likes to give to my female partner (but with male partners I like to recieve more, go figure :P), so if she is/was into giving to you first, I'd say go for it.

Don't forget that you can say no, tell her what you don't and DO like. I think she'd be more appreciative in the long run.

Hope it was fun. :)

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Sun, 05-11-2003 - 3:15am
Just curious....


Did this take place yet? How was it?

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Sun, 05-11-2003 - 5:11pm
Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. We've been very busy. ;^)

My first experience was highly enjoyable. DH and I are swingers so we got together with another couple we've been "seeing" for a while. The four of us were all together on our king-sized bed with she and I in the middle. It took me a while, but I eventually made the first move and things progressed from there. I really enjoy giving. My husband said it was the hottest thing he'd ever seen.

I realize that I've always been bi, but I never allowed myself to enjoy those feelings before. I definitely prefer men, but now I can enjoy my attraction to a woman and act on it without questioning my sexuality.

I've had several bi experiences since then, and DH and I are getting togther with our friend next week. (Her husband will be too busy to join us dammit.) It's given me a whole new perspective on life. I feel like I finally know myself.