Need Advise - my BF wants me to dominate

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Need Advise - my BF wants me to dominate
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 3:24pm
Hi, my BF wants me to dominate him this weekend. We have dabbled a little before (handcuffs, blindfold, spanking) but he wants me to take it a little further. I have about 2 hours and then we are going to switch roles after a break. I'm going first and last time I think he wanted more but it was new. Any advise for treating him a little more like a slave would be helpful. I remember the last time I was getting into it but I didn't want to hurt him - I did make him give me a massage, shave me (talk about trust), masterbate in front of me (just to the brink) and we ventured into facesitting (how fun). He is very powerful at work and doesn't take to following orders from others - he got away with some things where he was talking or touching me when he wasn't supposed to and I didn't know how to punish him. This time I want him to know who is in control and the boss. Any and all ideas are welcome, thanks in advance.

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Registered: 07-30-2003
Fri, 09-01-2006 - 1:27pm

Hi, Libra. If you really want to blow his mind and dominate than you might want to go so far as to feminize. Stockings bra and panties at a min with makeup and perfume. Talk about putting on the air of control, this will do the trick honey. Follow with a nice firm tie down on bed for your fun and control. Skip the handcuffs and get something that is easy to deal with and comfortable. Enjoy yourself infront of him with a vibrator or what ever gets you off and then masturbate him. It’s one of the most humbling pleasures you can do to him as he has absolute no control over when or how you do it. Let your imagination go and enjoy the power girl.

If you don’t have lingerie that fits him..Well that’s what thrift stores and ebay are for..LOL.. I have three maids outfits, two wedding dresses, a Victorian and civil war style costumes and assorted lingerie from panties to corsets and dozen different heels and boots for my dear hb. Only your imagination and purse are your limits..HE! HE! Seriously, feminizing is a hoot and if you're lucky your bf may fit some regular stuff and look cute to boot. My hb is a knock out and fits 14 to 16 in most things.

So go for it Libra..Worse thing could happen is he’ll say no to the attention. Punishment like whips and pain doesn’t quite cut it though a little playful spanking I have done. In our case doing some form of masturbation is enough of a threat to my hb to get him to comply. For him at least it's a real button to push on him..And Oh Honey! do I love to push that button..LOL

I feel it’s all about control and pleasure for both of us.

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Registered: 06-19-2006
Fri, 09-01-2006 - 1:47pm
Thanks, I love your reply and all of the posters have given me some great ideas. It is more work that I imagined, but I know the payoff will be HUGE!!! Thanks again!
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Registered: 07-30-2003
Fri, 09-01-2006 - 2:14pm
Libra:
Don't forget your look too. (Remeber guys are visual) You need to make a signature look for the role you're playing. You don't have to follow any rules here but you need to make the look strong and agressive. I have a signature perfume and a shade of lipstick that I only use when being the dom. He smellss or see's the lipstick, he know's that he's in for a wild night.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Fri, 09-01-2006 - 3:00pm

wow, this is a great thread.



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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 3:23pm

cl-littlemascara:
My signature scent is by Estee Lauder "Pleasures Exotic" Heavily applied..LOL and my lipstick is Mulberry Kiss by Loreal (endless lipstick, and rather durable)

Hb has small feet for a guy and can get by depending of maker a 12 to 13 in shoe size and I've had good luck on ebay and Payless. Anything passed a 5 inch heel and he just can't do the walk..LOL. I really try to keep the heels in the 3 to 4 inch range if at all possible as I make him parade around alot.

If you look on ebay..There is an outfit out of england that will make outfits to fit for about $100 or so...One of his wedding dresses and a maids outfit for him came from them. The others I found at garage sales and such. I'm luck he's a size 14-16. Me being a slim 12 only a very few things like panties stretch to fit..LOL.

This is very erotic play for us and I'm hooked on it majorly..But it's not 24/7 thing with us. And at least for us the play makes vanilla sex alot hotter. HE! HE!

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