Need Help! Hubby wants me to....

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Need Help! Hubby wants me to....
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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 8:46am
massage his prostate during oral sex. I've never done this before. Only one other person has done this for him and she was a "professional". I've read all the how-to's but I'm still afraid that I won't measure up to someone who does this 6-7 times a day! My biggest fear is that I'll try it for him and he'll be disappointed and thinking how much better it was with the pro. I guess my real question here is what would you guys do? If I don't do it, then he's got a special memory with someone other than me. If I do it, then I run the risk of not measuring up.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 04-01-2003 - 2:09pm
What have you got to loose? Just tell him that you have never done it and ask him for a little direction. My wife always seemed to be stimulated when I gave oral and I let a finger linger there. I finally asked her if she would like a little insertion. OMG she loved it. She finally asked if I would like to see what it felt like. reluctantly, I said sure. The first time felt really strange but I enjoyed it. The second time, she used a little lube while she was masturbating me and actually massaged my prostrate. WOW we were both surprised by the results. All I'm trying to say is make it a learning experience. You may not get it the first time but with his help you can do it. Word of warning though...it's going to be like a cannon going off. Good luck
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Registered: 04-10-2003
Thu, 04-10-2003 - 1:13am
Go for it.... you may find that you like it yourself. Giving him such great pleasure may be equally stimulating for you as well. Have fun!
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Thu, 04-10-2003 - 2:32am
I totally agree. What do you have to lose. At this point, he isn't going to pay anyone again soon. He would more than likely prefer to "play with you" and "teach" you what works for him.

Part of good sex is adventure with the two people. Or as a friend once told me, "all sex is good sex."

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 04-10-2003 - 9:52am
I love for her to finger my ass while sucking me!
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Thu, 04-24-2003 - 12:57pm
Don't worry about "measuring up" to the talents of a so-called professional. Just because people pay her and she does a bigger volume of business doesn't mean that she's any better. The way I look at it you can be like Wal-Mart and try to please everybody or you can be like a small, family-owned store and specialize in personal attention, courteous service, and satisfy your small but loyal client base. :-)

Just go for it. Believe me, you'll know what feels good to him and what doesn't. Especially when he cums! He will cum like you have never seen him cum before!

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

Jim

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Registered: 04-24-2003
Thu, 04-24-2003 - 1:59pm
I've not experienced this, but am interested. I have asked my wife to do the same, but she is hesitant. If you guys can talk about it try doing and having him tell you at that time, while you are doing it, what he thinks. Despite the comment of, "either you do it or he will find someone who will..." I think that most of us are happy to be home, safe, with someone that we love.
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Thu, 04-24-2003 - 9:49pm
You need to think positively! HEY!! He may like your technique or the experience with YOU a lot more than the professional. After all, he has the emotional bond with YOU!! Relax, and enjoy. Just give him the best "massage" you can and I am very sure he will be appreciative!! Wink!Wink!!