Ok so about last night's action........
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| Wed, 07-26-2006 - 12:22pm |
What a let down! he took forever getting to my house, like almost an hour over. So I was asleep. AND! he woke me up and tried to get me aroused. (which he did) then he stopped playing with me and asked me to put on my new lingerie. so I did then we went downstairs and he had me dance around for him..............then he just bent me over a chair and pulled my lacey thong out of the way, indulging in my fishnet clad body. It did feel good, I liked it.
But he'd complain about his side aching and then I went on top, and I squashed his balls so he went limp! JEE WIZ! so he walked me to the couch and he again bent me over and he finished two minutes later. I'd rather been sleeping. =(
After we went to sleep I layed awake mad that he didn't try to include me in the pleasure. He was being a very selfish lover. I'm tired of having sex with him. I don't want to break it off by any means. We connect in more ways than one. I'm just so sick of the same old sex over and over. I'm sick of him being the one who gets to climax. I don't ever climax unless I do it myself or he gives me oral (rarely) as he claims its hard for him because his jaw is distressed. WHATEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!
=( ----earthie----
ps, penguite, sorry this isnt as hot as we had hoped! =/
go read the fantasy stories, THEY can get you horny! lol

Earthenangel!
I'm sorry to hear that earthenangel.
This refusing to have sex can also rebound. Just think how bad we feel when they turn us down. I did the same thing but I was going to really teach him. Well I did. After about one year he gets an erection but when it gets to the action he looses it. Haven't had sex now with DH for over 10 years.
kat
I agree that using lack of sex as a punishment is merely playing games. It seems to me that the biggest problem in the majority of marriages is communication. I am placing my own marriage in this category and placing most of the blame on myself. I believe that this problem can easily be dealt with by having a frank discussion of what is expected. If this doesn't work, than it seems to me that he doesn't really care enough about your needs to warrant the emotion that you are putting into the relationship. But it is not really fair to place what may be an unknown burden on him when he may really have no idea of how he is not meeting expectations.
I may be out of line here, but I am strictly giving my opinion. Take that for what it is worth.
dcnut and gal_kat,
You two make some very good points, and are in no way out of line for stating them.
gracey, that's a good way to put it. I wouldn't want to flat out say no, I suppose I can just talk to him. Although, talking to him might not get through as I would hope.
Last night he DID give me some incredible oral =D no sex just oral for me and a handjob mixed with oral for him. That was really nice. And he initated! =D
thanks guys
xoxoxoxox ---- <3 earthie
That's great...perhaps the tides may be turning.
You know, at the time I wrote the last post, I thought about elaborating on what actually happened the night I refused to have sex with him, but I was trying to cut right back on details so I wasn't talking too "in-depth" about my sex life.
Withholding sex without communicating why might be a problem.