OK, what now?

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Registered: 02-04-2005
OK, what now?
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Mon, 04-24-2006 - 11:17pm

Well, I tried to talk to the wife about why we don't do it more often and she just brushed me off like I'm a kid asking for more ice cream and she went to bed! I'm pissed. Happened twice when I tried over the past few days. So what do I do now?

I know everyone has said talk to her but she doesn't see it as a problem as I'm convinced, she hates sex! She won't even talk about it and there is no way shes going to counseling. She just hates sex.

So I'm stuck. I can go to counseling and that'll help me understand the problem but thats not going to get me laid...URGH!

I am about a step away from going out and looking for it elsewhere. Seriously, I know its cheating but WTF? Am I supposed to go the rest of my life begging for it and only getting it every once in a while. I'll just stay in the marriage and get it on the side. And if she ever finds out, oh well, maybe it'll shock her into action?

The problem is being a man of low experience, I have no idea where to even look as its not like I'm picking up anyone at a bar...

I am just so F$&ing mad right now.....

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Registered: 08-12-2004
In reply to: tampa_man
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 2:10pm
HURRAY for you Maggie!!!
That's pretty much my story too.
It's terrible that we humans have to go through so much to push us to make necessary changes. Trying to keep a marriage together is a very noble and honorable thing.
But, honestly, I feel that it takes more courage< if it comes to that< to realize that getting out is best...It's a rough road either way.
But you only live once...do your best and move forward.
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Registered: 08-28-2003
In reply to: tampa_man
Sun, 05-07-2006 - 11:29pm
dump her dude

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