Opening Pandora's box...

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Registered: 05-27-2013
Opening Pandora's box...
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Mon, 05-27-2013 - 7:38am

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Registered: 04-06-2012
Wed, 05-29-2013 - 2:11pm

The part of your post that really struck me is that he told his wife that she'll never be able to meet his needs as a partner, but she's still with him!  He sounds like a guy who is always on the lookout for someone better, and doubt he'll ever be happy with the person he's with.    I think this could be a very dangerous situation, and you'd be the one hurt in the end. 

Only you can decide what you need in your life, and if you choose to look outside your marraige for it.  If you feel like you can't leave your marriage, but need something more, than it's your choice on what you want to do.  I just don't think this is the right guy to explore with. 

 

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Registered: 05-27-2013
Fri, 05-31-2013 - 7:03am

Thanks for responding. I guess I was talking more about the physical aspect of things, and I'm not sure that is really answerable anyway. I'm shocked that I feel such a huge physical attraction.

I'm not sure that he is made up in the way you describe. He has been with the same woman since he started college. She got pregnant and they made the best of it. He says he has only been unfaithful once before. When there are kids involved, it's really not easy to just make a clean break.

That said, what you have said makes sense. Just the fact that we are both considering being unfaithful is already not good for anyone. I get that part.

I've deleted my post because this board doesn't seem to have too much activity and I didn't want it hanging out there for ever. But I appreciate the fact that you took the time to respond. Thanks for your input and all the best.

Eve