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Porn and Your Partner
| Fri, 07-21-2006 - 12:56pm |
You come home and find your SO watching a porno and self pleasuring themselves!!!! What is your reaction!!!
My response would be to faint b/c I would be shocked that she was watching it but once i woke up I would be soooooo turned on!!! I would just sit back and watch for a bit...telling her to pretend i am not even there and then i would crawl over to where she was sitting and begin orally helping her out!!!!! I think it is just soooo sexy to watch a female masterbate!!!! A secret fantasy of mine is to catch my DW pleasuring herself and get to watch her with out her knowing that I am watching....

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I'm not as much fun as I used to be but here's my confession ...
If I walked in & caught dh stroking off to porn, I would be hurt and angry.
And that is the *only* thing that I have against porn. And, it's not porn, obviously, it's the guy watching it. My ex didn't watch porn, per se, he looked at provacatively, scantily clad women in sci-fi/fantasy stuff and got off to THAT. Meanwhile, I'm laying in bed alone, wondering what the F is sooooo very wrong with me that he would prefer THAT to *me*. That has been, probably, one of the MOST hurtful times of my life. Honestly. I have some serious hangups about my body and sex appeal as a result.
On the other hand, I know SO looks at porn. He looks at a LOT of porn, lol. And it doesn't bother me in the slightest. I have no idea if he's masturbating to it or not (but if he did, heck yeah, I'd want to see it!!!!!), but the point is, it's not affecting our sex life and in fact, he's using it for one or both of two reasons: Ideas of things for us to do and to get charged up for ME. How can a girl argue with something that eventually benefits her?!?!?!
Lucky
When dh and I were having sex every day, I could have cared less if he was looking at porn and j/o too.
Welcome to the board, raychoz.
No...not really. The meds he's on keep him from getting a full erection and I think he's more than a little self conscious about that. Why, I'm not sure, lol. We've been down that road with other meds in the past, but, this whole thing is still taking its toll on him, understandably. Last thing I want to do is push him. His mind is firmly placed in the gutter, however, lol, so that's a good sign.
And, right now, he's still required to have 24/7 care, so we're never alone on my semi-monthly visits. Actually, this time, it's been a month since I've seen him. :-( We're discussing his moving in with me once that requirement is lifted. though. (!) But, pretty much, other than rare phone sex and the quick feel when we have 5 minutes alone, we got nothing with regards to sex, lol.
He's actually doing exceptionally well, all things considered. He's out of the wheelchair, and next week, they may try having him use a cane instead of the walker. They all (orthopedist, GP, physical therapist) are saying that his rate of recovery would be considered remarkable for a 30yo, much less for a 60yo. So, we're heartened by that!!!!! It's just been a long hard road that, unfortunately, won't be getting any shorter or easier for a long time yet. Thanks for asking about him.
Lucky
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