Preparing for anal....
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Preparing for anal....
| Sat, 01-06-2007 - 10:05am |
My guy has been mentioning that he would like to do this. I'm a little hesitant in trying, basically afraid. I'm not sure what to expect. I don't mind it when there is a finger there but a penis? Is there anything that I need to do to prepare for this? If I should decide to do this I don't want it to be a bad experience. I'm afraid of it being messy and would be humiliated if it was. I'm sure there are a lot of people out there that can give me some advice.
I can't wait to hear some responses.
Thanks...
~freckle~

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Hi, freckle_face.
Okay I am in almost the same spot as you are. I really want to do this with dh and it really turns me on to think about it. However, once he starts to do this, I can't get past the pain/pressure and make him stop. Now, I have no problem taking a finger or two and I just ordered some toys for anal play. Now I have been using a water based lubricant but have been told by several friends that I need to switch to something like anal ease? Any thoughts on this from anyone?? I will also wait to try anal again after I have had my first orgasm so that I am more relaxed.
Sweetie
Heres the best advice I can give. Have him play with your anus for a little while with one finger. When you've relaxed to the idea of something in that area, he can slip the finger inside (with lots of lube of course), then after getting used to that, he can slip in another finger, then the last finger, going slowly and not forcing anything. When you are used to 2 or 3 fingers, allow him to begin to penetrate with just the tip of his penis. You have two muscle groups there, the anus is the easy one to get passed, the one higher into your rectum is the one that causes the discomfort. Allow him to continue to insert it slowly until you are completely comfortable (this might take a few minutes, he is going to have to be patient, and you are going to have to be relaxed). After he has had a few thrusts (slowly) and you are comfortable, you can allow him to proceed at his own pace, as long as you are still comfortable. After the beginning, it is pretty enjoyable.
Jessica
"but it's a great experience and a very powerful orgasm."
..so are you saying you had a powerful orgasm just from the anal sex, or did you also use clitoral stimulation at the same time?
Welcome to the board, Jessica.
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