Preparing for anal....

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Registered: 09-13-2005
Preparing for anal....
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Sat, 01-06-2007 - 10:05am

My guy has been mentioning that he would like to do this. I'm a little hesitant in trying, basically afraid. I'm not sure what to expect. I don't mind it when there is a finger there but a penis? Is there anything that I need to do to prepare for this? If I should decide to do this I don't want it to be a bad experience. I'm afraid of it being messy and would be humiliated if it was. I'm sure there are a lot of people out there that can give me some advice.

I can't wait to hear some responses.

Thanks...

~freckle~

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Registered: 11-29-2005
Sat, 01-06-2007 - 12:26pm
when I was married my husband always wanted to try it and like you I was afraid. I tried getting drunk the first time to ease what I thought would be severe pain. At first it didn't work because it just felt strange to have something as large as a penis being inserted in there and I kept tring to push him out. After a few more times we finally did it. The worst part for me was tring to relax so he could enter. After the first few thrust"which were very slow" I found it to be rather exciting. I too was worried about an embarrassing finish but it didn't happen thankfully. After a couple of times I learned to relax and I believe it or not have had some intense orgasms. One other thing you will want is lube, lube, lube and more lube. Good luck and have fun.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 01-06-2007 - 12:48pm

Hi, freckle_face.

 

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Registered: 03-11-2005
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 6:08am
We prepare by using a Fleet Enema(available in any drugstore). Empty the laxative that comes with the enema and refill with lukewarm water. Use the enema and expel. Then shower and you will be squeeky clean. DW uses this and I use this before she uses an anal toy to massage my prostate. Always use lots of lube. He should use a condom to prevent urinary infection. You might want to begin by using a small anal toy. It is exciting to use an anal toy while you have intercourse to simulate DP. Just some thoughts. Hope this helps.
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Registered: 01-05-2007
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 8:44am

Okay I am in almost the same spot as you are. I really want to do this with dh and it really turns me on to think about it. However, once he starts to do this, I can't get past the pain/pressure and make him stop. Now, I have no problem taking a finger or two and I just ordered some toys for anal play. Now I have been using a water based lubricant but have been told by several friends that I need to switch to something like anal ease? Any thoughts on this from anyone?? I will also wait to try anal again after I have had my first orgasm so that I am more relaxed.

Sweetie

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Registered: 06-24-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 10:53am
I wouldnt use anal ease, it will numb you down there and you need to know if things are not feeling quite right, as its your body telling you to either stop or slow down, besidies, if you cant feel any pain, then how are you going to know if something is wrong?. The best thing is for you to be totally relaxed thats really the key, and ofcourse tons of lube, start out slow and maybe it might take a few tries to get the penis all the way in, but the main thing is that you are comfortable, toys are good to practice with initially as you can gradually increase in their size (like those butt plugs they sell), Just be patient with it, and it will work out.

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Registered: 02-21-2004
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 1:46pm

Heres the best advice I can give. Have him play with your anus for a little while with one finger. When you've relaxed to the idea of something in that area, he can slip the finger inside (with lots of lube of course), then after getting used to that, he can slip in another finger, then the last finger, going slowly and not forcing anything. When you are used to 2 or 3 fingers, allow him to begin to penetrate with just the tip of his penis. You have two muscle groups there, the anus is the easy one to get passed, the one higher into your rectum is the one that causes the discomfort. Allow him to continue to insert it slowly until you are completely comfortable (this might take a few minutes, he is going to have to be patient, and you are going to have to be relaxed). After he has had a few thrusts (slowly) and you are comfortable, you can allow him to proceed at his own pace, as long as you are still comfortable. After the beginning, it is pretty enjoyable.

Jessica

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 1:55pm
I've seen many post suggesting that the woman have an orgasm prior to trying anal. In my limited experience, it helps if the guy is going for his second time. That way, he is able to be more patient. Also, both people should be highly aroused and in the mood for that encounter. Never needed toys or lube under those conditions. It's been a long while :-( but it's a great experience and a very powerful orgasm.


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Registered: 01-08-2007
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 2:52pm
We only started doing anal the last ten years of marraige. I was afraid. Now I don't even need lube most of the time and sometimes go in stretches where I prefer it over vaginal intercourse. My DH started by givin oral on the anus prior to insersion and it feels great.
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Registered: 01-05-2007
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 3:00pm

"but it's a great experience and a very powerful orgasm."

..so are you saying you had a powerful orgasm just from the anal sex, or did you also use clitoral stimulation at the same time?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 3:38pm

Welcome to the board, Jessica.

 

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