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| Fri, 08-25-2006 - 12:12am |
Hey There!
This board has been a little bit boring lately soooooooooo let's heat things up! I am really into anal sex. I was just wondering, how many of you posters are also into it. Not only that but the history of your anal sex thing. When and where. First time. First impressions, etc. It was an anal sex question that originally brought me to these message boards more that six years ago. I'll tell ya my experiences if ya tell me yours.
Let's get this party started!
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Sorry that your post got such a negative response from me, B.
Thank you.
Just Me,
B
Hi buttom,
Your response was nice--no need to thank me. I knew you weren't trying to insult, but rather that you just chose the wrong choice of words in an attempt to spark interest in your topic (which anal is always a topic of interest here--that's why it gets discussed so much!). Nothing to be ashamed of or worried about. In fact, one of my very first posts here wasn't received very well by one of my fellow boarders. I didn't think I said anything offensive, but it was taken the wrong way anyhow--I suppose it was the wording that I used or the fact that I can be a little blunt with my questioning at times, lol--but that's just me, also I think everyone knows by now that I wouldn't ever try to intentionally offend anyone, but I will give you my honest opinion. Me and that particular poster have since moved past that incident and correspond with each other just fine now--friendly even, not to mention I enjoy reading her posts.
That said, I wouldn't worry about your first thread and how it was received. You showed no hostility and even your subsequent posts sounded apologetic for any misconceptions/offenses you may have unintentionally caused. Welcome to the board, glad you decided to stay. I'm sure you'll be a great asset to the community here, and I bet that you'll rarely if ever find that things get boring around here *smiles*.
Chakra
Edited 8/28/2006 5:23 pm ET by ayurchakra
The first time I had anal sex... My bf and I were playing around and he kept touching me on my second hole. lol. he just asked if we could try it and we did. and he is a jerk because he went in all the way and it hurt SOOO bad. I cried and I was sore for the next day. yup. so I looked up anal and I sent him a link about it, and how to not hurt me! lol. so a few months later we did it again and he loved it, I didn't.
we do it every few months or so, I can't say that I get pleasure from anal.
Hi earthenangel,
Your first anal experience was a lot like mine. My guy went all the way in on his first thrust and got a little too excited! Even though the experience from the different sensations of anal was new, it was still painful for me. I was very sore for about a week, but the first night was the worst of the days that followed. Like you, I took it upon myself to find literature for him to read about how NOT to hurt me and to make it enjoyable for both of us. We do engage in this activity like 2 or 3 times every three months, but I still experience discomfort, this is mostly due to his large phallic proportions. I think our guys may have watched some adult films and got the idea of how to do anal from there (actually my husband told me that adult films is indeed where he got his ideas from).
Most hardcore adult films show anal sex being performed with very deep and rough penetration--not to mention that most of time it portrays the act in a degrading way. This is not how it's supposed to be done, and you can seriously injure someone by being reckless & rough back there--particularly if they're not used to it! This is why I have qualms with some porn (as I'm sure everyone is finding out, lol). Many young men who are exposed to pornography or some kind of adult films prior to becoming sexually active normally enter their sex lives with unrealistic views on how certain acts are supposed to be performed. However, once they get rid of their preconceived notions about sex, and understand that great sex isn't about having perfect makeup, doing strange acrobatics and making a "fake" theatrical performance loud enough that the neighbors call the cops, then they can thoroughly enjoy sex. Sex is not supposed to mirror the antics you see in pornography. IMHO, sex should be done in the confines of a loving/caring relationship, where each partner wants to please the other with every inch of their bodies and where both parties cherish the bonding experience that occurs from this beautiful act of intimacy. Luckily for me, my husband was able to dispel most of his misconceptions about sex during our first year of being active....but wow did we ever have some interesting times...haha
If there is any pornography watched in our home, it's normally done with us two together (so I can stomp on false advertisements right away!, lol). Also, I think it's better for a couple to engage in the watching of adults films as a team, rather than solo. It makes you closer and lessens the chance of one getting addicted or something else unsavory. I normally prefer the softcore films because they are more arousing for me, contain a woman-friendly story line and are much more closer to the truth!
Chakra
Edited 8/29/2006 12:27 am ET by ayurchakra
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