Sex Penalty!

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Registered: 05-04-2008
Sex Penalty!
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Mon, 09-14-2009 - 8:23am

Do you ever have disagreements with your partner that spills over into the bedroom and the result is NO SEX FOR YOU TONIGHT?


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Registered: 04-26-2008
Mon, 09-14-2009 - 3:51pm
1) Nothing is gained by denying somebody sex.
2) They have to want it first to deny them.
3) refer to #1.






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Registered: 06-30-2009
Mon, 09-14-2009 - 11:20pm
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Registered: 05-09-2007
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 8:29pm

I agree that nothing is gained from withholding sex. Towards the end of my marriage there was no sex, and the reason was because my ex was a big scumbag. But I wasn't withholding it persay, it was more that I was disgusted by the thought of sleeping with him.


In my present relationship, withholding sex is never a consideration to either of us. Actually, it is often a miracle cure all if we disagree about anything :)

 

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Registered: 06-30-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 10:39pm

Hi..nice to meet you...


I certainly understand situations where withholding sex is just part of the necessity of maybe moving towards ending the relationship...I have a very close girlfriend that was being physically/mentally & emotionally abused by her ex husband...he too, was a scumbag...she never wanted sex with that man and I couldn't have ever blamed her for that...I guess, that is just a necessity issue to me...but, when you "think" you are in what is supposed to be a loving marriage, no sex doesn't make sense to me..I'm quickly finding that I'm am very quickly falling out of love with the man I married over 16 years ago because there just is no compromising. I need what I need...I guess in this situation..no matter how long it has been...is a deal breaker for me.

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Registered: 04-26-2008
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 9:23am
I have heard and/or read about using Sex to work out disagreements or issues but has anybody ever met anybody that actually practiced it?






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Registered: 05-04-2008
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 10:15am
Well an ex of mine whenever he had disagreements that made me really angry and he knew he was wrong, he would be at my beck and call for all things (in and out of the bedroom). No was never in his vocabulary until I thing he had paid his dues.


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Registered: 04-26-2008
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 5:18pm
Sexual I would be at any women beck and call as long as it was mutual






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