I was about to say the same thing almost. DH and I have been together 21 years and in all that time when we do this, it's never gotten on my face - close, but never on. And like someone else mentioned, he can finish in different ways - oral, handjob by you, masturbating and you agree where he can cum on you, intercourse, etc...
Actually it's not too bad, it's easier if you're a c-cup or better though, I am a lowly b lol. Maybe you should rethink the cumming on the face objection, that's not bad either, in fact it really gets my motor running. Who knows why but it does. Anyway, good luck.
I notice you're postpartum...this might be a great way to connect in an intimate fashion while still caring for your health. I used to facilitate a new mother's group for over 8 years and eventually, the questions of sex always came up, pardon the pun, lol. Sex can be a great way to reconnect, to defuse the stress of new parenthood, etc. And this particular act may be a great way to give to your H without a whole lot of effort on your part ('cuz let's face it, you're TIRED right now!!) We were always telling the new parents that sex after baby doesn't, shouldn't, and often can't, lol, mean IC. There are other ways, oral, breast sex, etc, to give to one another sexually while still allowing for health issues, fatigue, interruptions, etc.
My own personal limits?? Well, I have a few, but only a few. I have decided with SO, I am willing to try almost anything twice. Just in case the first time blew for some reason...it might be great the next time when I'm a bit more familiar with the act/process/positioning, whatever.
Good luck and congrats on the new baby...how's the older child dealing??? And I just realized you posted this a few weeks ago. Did you do it?? How'd it go?? If you didn't, how'd he handle the "no"?
First of all, thanks to everyone that has replied to me. I did not end up doing breast sex with my husband. I would like to though. Honestly, we are having issues right now in our marriage. We are working on them though.
I strongly recommend you try it. Like everyone else said, if getting it on your face is your "hang-up" then make sure he knows that if he wants this in the future, no aiming for the face! I recommend it because it's a very EASY way to provide big time pleasure to your SO and all you have to do is lie there and hold your breasts together. As others suggested, have a towel handy for quick clean up.
I love doing this, but sadly the DW only does it for me every few months. DW tends towards the BBW size but she's got quite a pair of 40DDs so boob jobs are very erotic. Unfotunately, she acts like cum is hydrochloric acid and will cause her irreparable damage if I get any on her! This takes some of the pleasure out of the climax for me. I squirt it all over my stomach and chest frequently and it's never had any negative affects for me!!
These are the among the toughest times in your marriage, Bjuana. Cut yourself and your DH a little slack and do what you can to reconnect intimacy, even if it's not sexual. My ex and I had libido issues throughout our marriage, mostly because we had 4 children within 8 years and a few miscarriages, too. Health and stress levels weren't very good, obviously.
I was also an extremely connected mother, finding it difficult to leave my baby for any appreciable time. It INCREASED my stress level, rather than lowering it, to leave my babies. So, my Ex and I became champs at creating intimacy without sex. Long, middle of the night chats, sharing favorite movies on the VCR (gawd I'm dating myself, lol) where we could pause if the baby cried, afternoons with family where I knew that the other people holding my baby were people who loved it. When the toddler napped, I put the baby in the baby seat and took loooooooong hot showers that used up all the hot water or a bath, where I could easily bring the baby in with me, if need be.
It's really hard to work on a relationship when you're so tired from trying to keep the older child happy and the baby happy and the husband happy, and oh, YOURSELF happy. You might work outside the home, you might not. Either way has its own stresses. You might be nursing your baby, you might not be. Neither is without self doubt and self questioning on whether you made the right choice.
It's sooooo easy for us to say, We're the grownups, we're the ones capable of delaying our wants and needs, so it's us who should be sacrificing. And that's TRUE....one hundred percent. But if there's anything I learned from mothering four children and living through first a hopeful marriage, then a disappointing one and finally a divorce, it's that somehow, someway, figure out how you can take care of you and of your marriage because a happy mom is THE most important quality of life ingredient for babies and children. I believe that with all my heart. My unhappiness was faaaaar more damaging to my children than my divorce has proven to be.
Email me through my profile, if you like. Good luck to you.
My kids are old enough now (17, 14, 11, 8), that I feel like I'm a pretty seasoned mom, so I don't use the parenting boards much anymore. I was extremely active with the March'98 Playgroup back in the day, though. I tend to concentrate on relationship-focused boards, now.
While I truly believe that things have a way of working out the way they are supposed to, I can't help harboring a few "What If's" regarding my exhusband and our marriage. I'm a much better SO now, *I* think, than I ever was a wife. Is that because I'm different? The guy is different? I'm different with each guy?? I don't know. So...until I figure that out, I haunt these boards, lol.
I had several miscarriages, too. They're easier to bear now that I have my kids, but they did a number on me at the time and left their marks on each of us, individually, as well as us as a couple. We used FAM, too, btw. I keep asking my daughters to read Your Fertility Signals, just so they would know their bodies that well, but so far, no dice. They're too embarrassed, lol.
Please feel welcome to email me through my profile, if you like!!!
Hi bjuana... not sure.. but figured I would throw in my 2 cents again.. for what its worth. Chelle had her tubes tied the first 5 years of our relationship... I paid 8 grand to have them untied.. and it worked... we have a beautiful 2and1/2 year old daughter... problem was... for the first time in our relationship.... we had to worry about birth control. We ended up going with an IUD... it has worked out perfectly.... She wanted NOTHING to do with hormones... and iuds come with and without... there are some options there...
far as the original topic... breast sex is a great way to "finish" without worries of pregnancy.. so there... it gets another positive vote!!! Sounds like you have alot going right now.. but if you guys are communicating.. thats awesome... nothing will get resolved without it.... I wish you all the best!!
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I notice you're postpartum...this might be a great way to connect in an intimate fashion while still caring for your health. I used to facilitate a new mother's group for over 8 years and eventually, the questions of sex always came up, pardon the pun, lol. Sex can be a great way to reconnect, to defuse the stress of new parenthood, etc. And this particular act may be a great way to give to your H without a whole lot of effort on your part ('cuz let's face it, you're TIRED right now!!) We were always telling the new parents that sex after baby doesn't, shouldn't, and often can't, lol, mean IC. There are other ways, oral, breast sex, etc, to give to one another sexually while still allowing for health issues, fatigue, interruptions, etc.
My own personal limits?? Well, I have a few, but only a few. I have decided with SO, I am willing to try almost anything twice. Just in case the first time blew for some reason...it might be great the next time when I'm a bit more familiar with the act/process/positioning, whatever.
Good luck and congrats on the new baby...how's the older child dealing??? And I just realized you posted this a few weeks ago. Did you do it?? How'd it go?? If you didn't, how'd he handle the "no"?
Lucky
I strongly recommend you try it. Like everyone else said, if getting it on your face is your "hang-up" then make sure he knows that if he wants this in the future, no aiming for the face! I recommend it because it's a very EASY way to provide big time pleasure to your SO and all you have to do is lie there and hold your breasts together. As others suggested, have a towel handy for quick clean up.
I love doing this, but sadly the DW only does it for me every few months. DW tends towards the BBW size but she's got quite a pair of 40DDs so boob jobs are very erotic. Unfotunately, she acts like cum is hydrochloric acid and will cause her irreparable damage if I get any on her! This takes some of the pleasure out of the climax for me. I squirt it all over my stomach and chest frequently and it's never had any negative affects for me!!
Hope your relationship issues improve.
These are the among the toughest times in your marriage, Bjuana. Cut yourself and your DH a little slack and do what you can to reconnect intimacy, even if it's not sexual. My ex and I had libido issues throughout our marriage, mostly because we had 4 children within 8 years and a few miscarriages, too. Health and stress levels weren't very good, obviously.
I was also an extremely connected mother, finding it difficult to leave my baby for any appreciable time. It INCREASED my stress level, rather than lowering it, to leave my babies. So, my Ex and I became champs at creating intimacy without sex. Long, middle of the night chats, sharing favorite movies on the VCR (gawd I'm dating myself, lol) where we could pause if the baby cried, afternoons with family where I knew that the other people holding my baby were people who loved it. When the toddler napped, I put the baby in the baby seat and took loooooooong hot showers that used up all the hot water or a bath, where I could easily bring the baby in with me, if need be.
It's really hard to work on a relationship when you're so tired from trying to keep the older child happy and the baby happy and the husband happy, and oh, YOURSELF happy. You might work outside the home, you might not. Either way has its own stresses. You might be nursing your baby, you might not be. Neither is without self doubt and self questioning on whether you made the right choice.
It's sooooo easy for us to say, We're the grownups, we're the ones capable of delaying our wants and needs, so it's us who should be sacrificing. And that's TRUE....one hundred percent. But if there's anything I learned from mothering four children and living through first a hopeful marriage, then a disappointing one and finally a divorce, it's that somehow, someway, figure out how you can take care of you and of your marriage because a happy mom is THE most important quality of life ingredient for babies and children. I believe that with all my heart. My unhappiness was faaaaar more damaging to my children than my divorce has proven to be.
Email me through my profile, if you like. Good luck to you.
Lucky
My kids are old enough now (17, 14, 11, 8), that I feel like I'm a pretty seasoned mom, so I don't use the parenting boards much anymore. I was extremely active with the March'98 Playgroup back in the day, though. I tend to concentrate on relationship-focused boards, now.
While I truly believe that things have a way of working out the way they are supposed to, I can't help harboring a few "What If's" regarding my exhusband and our marriage. I'm a much better SO now, *I* think, than I ever was a wife. Is that because I'm different? The guy is different? I'm different with each guy?? I don't know. So...until I figure that out, I haunt these boards, lol.
I had several miscarriages, too. They're easier to bear now that I have my kids, but they did a number on me at the time and left their marks on each of us, individually, as well as us as a couple. We used FAM, too, btw. I keep asking my daughters to read Your Fertility Signals, just so they would know their bodies that well, but so far, no dice. They're too embarrassed, lol.
Please feel welcome to email me through my profile, if you like!!!
Lucky
Hi bjuana... not sure.. but figured I would throw in my 2 cents again.. for what its worth. Chelle had her tubes tied the first 5 years of our relationship... I paid 8 grand to have them untied.. and it worked... we have a beautiful 2and1/2 year old daughter... problem was... for the first time in our relationship.... we had to worry about birth control. We ended up going with an IUD... it has worked out perfectly.... She wanted NOTHING to do with hormones... and iuds come with and without... there are some options there...
far as the original topic... breast sex is a great way to "finish" without worries of pregnancy.. so there... it gets another positive vote!!! Sounds like you have alot going right now.. but if you guys are communicating.. thats awesome... nothing will get resolved without it.... I wish you all the best!!
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