So what percentage?

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Registered: 02-04-2005
So what percentage?
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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 11:34pm

This is a tough question to answer but what percentage of "most women" do you think the input on the board here represents?
My asking is I feel cheated when it come to my sexual experience. I know you can't compare but I read women here saying they want to try or have done a threesome or have had a girl on girl experience with their SO watching or have performed oral on their SO with another female particpating or watching or are begging their So for anal sex and I think..."Man, I haven't had ANY of that!!!" :(
My wife won't do any of those...

I know you can't compare but the more I read here, the more sexually frustrated I get...

I know you're answer...then stop reading!!! ;)

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 1:59am

Hi, tampa man.

 

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Registered: 02-04-2005
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 7:54am

Jazz,
Thanks, it does make me feel better. I thought we were sexual misfits.
I wasn't sure how much might have been exageration as I guess I figured women don't really do that like me do. I know on a few of the men's boards I've visited (others not here on 'i') that if you believed everything you read, every guy is spending about 10 of his 12 waking hours having sex!

And you know I never really thought of item number three you mentioned. Eewwww, thats kinda scary..

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 9:53am
Jazz put it very well........I wouldn't compare your life to what you read on the net. :)


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Registered: 02-04-2005
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 10:36am
Thanks LM,
I'm just trying to get the wife to ask for ANYTHING at least once! ;)
I shouldn't compare but our sex life (what there is of it) is really boring. I've tried to mention other items (porn, toys, you name it) but she won't hear of it.
The once or twice a month missionary, 30 minute session is fine with her.
Oh well.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 10:48am
Have you told her that you need more variation?


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Registered: 11-20-2005
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 11:33am
Hey Tampaman! I think you are a little older than me, but I think my age group (30) were late teens/early 20's when I noticed a lot of woman having same sex experiences. At least in the groups I hung out with. Lots of FF kissing and grinding on the dance floor at clubs. For many girls, that's as far as it went or some may have went home in a drunken state with one of them and that was the end of it. I may be totally off on all this. Also, you are comparing yourselves to the TABOO board. Not exactly average. I have had female encounters but never with my husband, and it almost every time was one on one, no men involved. Also, our sex life was getting pretty hohum after 6 years of marriage until I started getting ideas on ivillage and trying them, which I think may be the case for others here. You don't normally get the chance to talk so openly, especially with a large group of people about sex. It opens doors and puts ideas in your head. I hear stories on the village that I find hard to believe after a while. EVERYBODY can't be having hot sex and getting along perfectly and putting their marriage first all the time. I know I have no problems admitting my marriage isn't perfect. Why not use the things you hear on here as a starting place and see what your wife would be comfortable starting with? I don't know you well so maybe you've done all kinds of stuff to try already but my DH is LL and likes vanilla just fine thankyouverymuch! But he has been a little more open lately.
Just my 2cents.

 

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 2:09pm
  • Some women who post are probably exaggerating or lying about their experiences
  • Some women who post are probably men pretending to be women

  • Wow, I never thought of either of those circumstances as happening.

     

    iVillage Member
    Registered: 02-04-2005
    Sat, 02-25-2006 - 3:49pm
    Thanks for the 2 cents.
    Yeah, I'm late 30s and the wife is a little older.
    She doesn't want to try anything and yes, our sex life has become ho-hum after more than ten years of marriage. She won't even come here to read anything and gets mad at me for doing so.
    I keep trying however.
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    Registered: 11-20-2005
    Sat, 02-25-2006 - 8:21pm
    You sound like you are getting angry about it now. I can understand that. DH and I went through a year of abstinence after we married and then months in between encounters. We have special circumstances though. I understand where you are coming from. My self esteem really took a beating and I often felt tricked into marrying him in the beginning as he wasn't like it before our wedding day. It's hard not to get upset. Can I ask if you have kids together? This was my reason for staying. Otherwise I would have been long gone. I am a very patient person but my God, a year while newly weds. I still have a much higher drive than him and there is a lot to still work out but it is getting better slowly.
    Hugs, Tanya.

     

    iVillage Member
    Registered: 02-04-2005
    Sat, 02-25-2006 - 8:58pm
    Tanya,
    I wouldn't say I'm angry but REALLY frustrated. I have a similar thread on the "married sex" board. My problem is my wife thinks EVERYTHING is perfect and shes incredibly happy. Then with I bring up thses kind of things, its my issue for not being happy.
    And no, we don't have any kids so they're not the problem...
    Thanks for your support. Its good to hear that someone kind of understands.
    TM

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