My current SO brought it out in me, MY ex husband thought everything was too taboo, He wouldnt even consider anal play at all let alone anything else. I had a relationship with a girl along time ago and I wasnt ever even able to tell my ex about it ) So when I got divorced I told my self, that I was just going to go out and have a good time and not be tied down so that I could experience my own sexuality. I started out with a FWB and I was out one night and I ran in to this guy at the local bar and he was talking to me and I said " look... Im only looking for a FWB right now, Im not in to the relationship thing" and hes Like thats cool, I Just got divorced also, So we started talking and having some "relations" and that turned in to dating and boy oh boy did this Guy know how to touch a woman.... Then I found out he was french, about 75% french, Hes the first generation american in his family.... So I finally told him about the fact that I didnt want to be stuck in a realtionship where everything was too Taboo, and that I was tooooo young for that. and Hes like no Prob, Turns out that Hes been to swingers clubs, Had three somes before and was in to anal play and anal sex. So one by one when I express the interest I get to try something new. It took us a couple trys before I was comfortable with anal but I have found out that I LOVE IT lol.... We have been together for almost a year now and I dont feel tied down at all, He has said that If I need a "freebie" on occasion that he just wanted to know about it first LOL... Although I just havent felt the need to go anywhere else, He takes good care of me, Supports me as I gave up my job and am making an effort to start my career.... Such a good guy! LOL
so, who brought out your inner Taboo freak? My husband was the one who brought out the "freak" in me. I knew he wouldn't settle for anything less than explorative, intense sex, so I stepped my game up from the beginning.
was it before your current partner, or with your SO? Doesn't apply, lol.
what was it about this person that allowed your inner freak out? He's very good-looking, so it's easy for me to fantasize about his tawny skin, shiny coal black hair, and his big...heart. No but really, my husband was the first man who ever talked extremely dirty to me. Before meeting him, I had never heard a man refer to a woman's vagina as the "p" word, or a man's penis as the "d" word--I had heard the phrases, but no one had ever said them directly to me, or told me what they wanted to do to me sexually. I'm guessing this is because I was raised in the "deep & religious" south and he was from California, so he was way more open in his views on sex. At first I thought he was just some foul-mouthed renegade and was a little put off by some of the things he would say or the way he would try to grab at my rear, but at the same time I was strangely intrigued. I used to feel all funny when I imagined us doing the things he said, and I liked it. He doesn't talk filthy dirty (because that's just a turn off to me), just regular "erotic" terms, and that turns me on. I love how he is so comfortable and confident with vocalizing what he's thinking or feeling, especially when we're making love--that takes me right over the edge. I finally started reciprocating about 5 years ago, before that I was too much of a prude to refer to the male and female genitalia by anything but their scientific names. Also sex was referred to as making love and never the "f" word, which now I have no problem saying in the heat of the moment.
We've come a long way to becoming completely comfortable with each other. I always look forward to making love to him because it's never the same routine and he's always spicing it up somehow and making sure he puts my pleasure first.
While I have been doing Taboo things since 15 with my blowing a male exotic dancer at a HS initiation my current lover has taken me to places I did not know even existed. Water sports, Oral/anal, body parts worship, butt plugs etc, etc, etc have all become exploratory subjects.
Even when I was an innocent virgin I knew I was gonna end up a kinky freaky girl! And I DID! I've only been with one guy, and he's my BF. He's real kinky and freaky too! So he encouraged me to be open with him, because the chances are, he'd like it too! and every time he's done something taboo to me I just loved it! When he told me he wanted to try anal, I was excited, and I liked it! =D we don't do it long, but when we do, he is very appreciative!
I'll go for any taboo, except for threesomes/swinging. My man is MY man, biatches keep their hands off! lol!
Well mine will be an odd answer...it was my dad. So not a partner. I was raised a taboo person. My dad was quite the adventurous stud in his day. Granted, not everything he did was on the up and up, but he taught me in various ways that sex is a fantastic adventure in life and that it should be pursued with vigor. Now the ways he taught me were via providing me materials to read when I was younger, open discussions about his life after his divorce with my mom, or just off-handed comments. There is a stranger incident where I happened to be within 15 feet of my dad having anal sex...long story. So I guess it was my dad that introduced me early on to all facets of sexuality in concept and I applied them to my own sexual development where they fit in.
I started young, my Scottish BF I have mentioned before introduced me to light bondage and public sex...a later BF introduced me to all kinds of kinky things, and I discovered I liked to be spanked with him.
Like Talbed, my answer to this is a bit different. My sisters, particularly my oldest sister, brought taboos right out into the open for me. When I was a young teen, I remember them talking very openly about sex and the wonders of everything about it. Being raised by very conservative parents, and an especially religious Mother, the thought that sex could be so much more than for procreating was such a relief! I've never been timid about anything in my life, so knowing sex can be fun, pleasurable, and freaky was very liberating. When I became sexually active, it was my oldest sister I went to for answers and to 'gab'.
As for the first partner I was actually taboo with, I can say it was my first one. Our first time was in the middle of the day right by the lake. It was a popular spot for camping and boats go by their frequently. We could have been caught at anytime. Hmm, or maybe that was being young and horny? He was the first boyfriend I watched porn with and acted out the scenes. I had to chuckle just now at the memories...
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MY ex husband thought everything was too taboo, He wouldnt even consider anal play at all let alone anything else. I had a relationship with a girl along time ago and I wasnt ever even able to tell my ex about it )
So when I got divorced I told my self, that I was just going to go out and have a good time and not be tied down so that I could experience my own sexuality. I started out with a FWB and I was out one night and I ran in to this guy at the local bar and he was talking to me and I said " look... Im only looking for a FWB right now, Im not in to the relationship thing" and hes Like thats cool, I Just got divorced also, So we started talking and having some "relations" and that turned in to dating and boy oh boy did this Guy know how to touch a woman.... Then I found out he was french, about 75% french, Hes the first generation american in his family.... So I finally told him about the fact that I didnt want to be stuck in a realtionship where everything was too Taboo, and that I was tooooo young for that. and Hes like no Prob, Turns out that Hes been to swingers clubs, Had three somes before and was in to anal play and anal sex. So one by one when I express the interest I get to try something new. It took us a couple trys before I was comfortable with anal but I have found out that I LOVE IT lol.... We have been together for almost a year now and I dont feel tied down at all, He has said that If I need a "freebie" on occasion that he just wanted to know about it first LOL... Although I just havent felt the need to go anywhere else, He takes good care of me, Supports me as I gave up my job and am making an effort to start my career.... Such a good guy! LOL
so, who brought out your inner Taboo freak? My husband was the one who brought out the "freak" in me. I knew he wouldn't settle for anything less than explorative, intense sex, so I stepped my game up from the beginning.
was it before your current partner, or with your SO? Doesn't apply, lol.
what was it about this person that allowed your inner freak out? He's very good-looking, so it's easy for me to fantasize about his tawny skin, shiny coal black hair, and his big...heart. No but really, my husband was the first man who ever talked extremely dirty to me. Before meeting him, I had never heard a man refer to a woman's vagina as the "p" word, or a man's penis as the "d" word--I had heard the phrases, but no one had ever said them directly to me, or told me what they wanted to do to me sexually. I'm guessing this is because I was raised in the "deep & religious" south and he was from California, so he was way more open in his views on sex.
At first I thought he was just some foul-mouthed renegade and was a little put off by some of the things he would say or the way he would try to grab at my rear, but at the same time I was strangely intrigued. I used to feel all funny when I imagined us doing the things he said, and I liked it. He doesn't talk filthy dirty (because that's just a turn off to me), just regular "erotic" terms, and that turns me on. I love how he is so comfortable and confident with vocalizing what he's thinking or feeling, especially when we're making love--that takes me right over the edge. I finally started reciprocating about 5 years ago, before that I was too much of a prude to refer to the male and female genitalia by anything but their scientific names. Also sex was referred to as making love and never the "f" word, which now I have no problem saying in the heat of the moment.
We've come a long way to becoming completely comfortable with each other. I always look forward to making love to him because it's never the same routine and he's always spicing it up somehow and making sure he puts my pleasure first.
Edited 8/16/2006 9:22 am ET by ayurchakra
How come you won't be releasing your "inner freak" as much?--if you don't mind me asking that is.
Chakra
Even when I was an innocent virgin I knew I was gonna end up a kinky freaky girl! And I DID! I've only been with one guy, and he's my BF. He's real kinky and freaky too! So he encouraged me to be open with him, because the chances are, he'd like it too! and every time he's done something taboo to me I just loved it! When he told me he wanted to try anal, I was excited, and I liked it! =D we don't do it long, but when we do, he is very appreciative!
I'll go for any taboo, except for threesomes/swinging. My man is MY man, biatches keep their hands off! lol!
My dad was quite the adventurous stud in his day. Granted, not everything he did was on the up and up, but he taught me in various ways that sex is a fantastic adventure in life and that it should be pursued with vigor.
Now the ways he taught me were via providing me materials to read when I was younger, open discussions about his life after his divorce with my mom, or just off-handed comments. There is a stranger incident where I happened to be within 15 feet of my dad having anal sex...long story. So I guess it was my dad that introduced me early on to all facets of sexuality in concept and I applied them to my own sexual development where they fit in.
Like Talbed, my answer to this is a bit different. My sisters, particularly my oldest sister, brought taboos right out into the open for me. When I was a young teen, I remember them talking very openly about sex and the wonders of everything about it. Being raised by very conservative parents, and an especially religious Mother, the thought that sex could be so much more than for procreating was such a relief! I've never been timid about anything in my life, so knowing sex can be fun, pleasurable, and freaky was very liberating. When I became sexually active, it was my oldest sister I went to for answers and to 'gab'.
As for the first partner I was actually taboo with, I can say it was my first one. Our first time was in the middle of the day right by the lake. It was a popular spot for camping and boats go by their frequently. We could have been caught at anytime. Hmm, or maybe that was being young and horny? He was the first boyfriend I watched porn with and acted out the scenes. I had to chuckle just now at the memories...
Gee, I think I brought it out myself.
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