Thoughts on Foreplay

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Registered: 06-13-2008
Thoughts on Foreplay
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Wed, 09-23-2009 - 3:34pm

This is not particularly taboo (a priori, anyway) but so what. I am wondering what foreplay means to you.

The reason I ask is, once I was talking with my ex-beau about how he does not spend a long time having non-genital things before we have genital contact. He said " oh, you want more foreplay." I said I don't think of it as foreplay, I think of it as part of the play. If he spent an hour stroking my legs that could be as sexy to me as being fingered. That made me realize that I think foreplay is a very penis-vagina-sex-centered term. It refers to what happens before the penis enters the vagina.

(BTW, the genital contact was superb. This is not a criticism of his lovemaking. It's more about different styles, and wanting to take lots of time on different things.)

So what is foreplay for you, or do you even subscribe to that term?

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Registered: 05-04-2008
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 3:54pm

Foreplay is a must, and it does not necessarily mean he has to be right there touching me. Foreplay can be him calling me on the phone and telling me anything that will get me hot under the collar.


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Registered: 02-05-2008
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 4:45pm

My wife says that walking the dog on weekend mornings and vacuming is extended like foreplay for her!

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Registered: 02-09-2009
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 4:54pm

One of the finest pieces of advice I ever received was from a friend who said, "Foreplay begins when the sex act is completed."

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Registered: 06-02-2006
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 5:36pm

Hi there, Wants...


Your post made me think of a woman I used to date and the first time we had sex... Im not sure how long we kissed... played with each other... things like that before she asked me to make love to her...


And my reply was...


Baby... thats what we've been doing for the past couple of hours... ;o) I think of sex going from the beginning to the end... and then some...


Jim


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Registered: 01-15-2008
Thu, 09-24-2009 - 8:48am

Funny you should post this, I was just having this same type of conversation with someone recently.

I guess I am different from a lot of guys, but I have always loved the whole skin touching skin, touching, lightly running hands all over each other even out of bed. Driving down the road, my hands touching her smooth bare leg...to laying in bed and just roaming hands is just awesome.

I think it is an essential part of the intimacy that couples need. I mean yeah its fun to hop in bed and make love but if you can extend it an hour by touching, kissing, and just connecting wouldn't it make sense it would be that much better?

Unfortunately DW and I are ML so that stuff no longer goes on.....but I miss it. A lot.

FG

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Registered: 06-13-2008
Thu, 09-24-2009 - 8:57pm
You know what, WS, I am kindof like your dw. I would be ready within minutes. But I wanted all the other stuff TOO. You know?
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Fri, 09-25-2009 - 1:09pm

wantstocutloose


DW is like you and the other bro's DW.

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Registered: 06-13-2008
Wed, 09-30-2009 - 10:49pm
You get some O's too sometimes right? Cuz I was going to say "can you send a clone of yourself?" but I realized I wouldn't be happy if my partner didn't get off too.
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