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threesome?
| Fri, 07-14-2006 - 6:23pm |
I'm new here, and am going threw some new experiences. To make a long story short I'm in the middle of an afair and hooked up with AP today to find out gf wanted to be involved. Although she's watched before this is the first time she's particpated. Suprising enough to me I really enjoyed it. Although she only particapated to a degree (sucking on my nips and playing with my clit.) I definetly want to take this further. My problem is that even though it was a real turn on I'm still feeling a little uncomfortable with the whole thing. Or at least with her. So what's my next move? How can I get more comfortable with this?

The beginning part of your posting is quite confusing and some of the wording in your reply is too broad to give a specific reply. The parts that I find confusing are who / what is AP, as abbreviations totally confuse me. Secondly from your posting it sounds as though you are having an affair and your other half wants to involve his girlfriend? Anyhow my reply is based on the fact that you are having an affair and wanting to know if you should take it further with the other woman?
To being with, it is difficult to say why you are "unconfortable with the whole situation". When you say this do you mean the affair, the sleeping with another woman, or both? If you are talking about the affair then you need to end it and come clean to your husband about it. Let him know everything including your interest in sleeping with another woman. Only after you have come clean will you feelings about your interest in another woman would be known.
If you talking about taking things further with this woman. The main question you need to ask yourself is it the situation that is making yourself uncomfortable or have you had previous feelings before this affair started. The further out you can go out in time from the affair the more likely the feelings you are having are associated with your desire to explore your desire to be with another woman. If this is the case then you truly have two options. First option is to speak to your husband about your desire to be with another woman and how you came about to discover this. Once the intial shock wears off approach him again in a calm and rational discussion about the subject. Another option would be to meet this woman on your own without anyone else and see where things go. However if you select this option I feel you will only be complicating your situation even further.
The other thing you need to decide for yourself is how did the feelings surface. A part of me, based on your posting, is wondering if your affair is a way to protect you from your feelings of bi-sexuality /homsexuality. Meaning are you unhappy in your marriage and uncomfortable with the affair solely due to the fact you are beginning to discover that you are either bi or gay?
You have many issues that are going on in this situation that you need to clarify for yourself. Once you have clarifed them and come up with a plan of action I believe the answer will come to you.
Sory that I was so vauge yesterday. I was walking around still in a fog. AP is the guy I'm having an afair with. And it's not the afair that I'm uncomfortable with. (I'd rather not get involved in an afair discussion though.)
Now to the being uncomfortable part. I probably miss worded it. It's not that I'm uncomfortable in a way that is equvilent to not wanting it. Just finding myself in a new and unexpected situation type of uncomfortable.
Truth is I really, really enjoyed it. It's just that I had never put any thought into girl on girl, or a three some. (Heck it's hard enough to get H to have sex at all) Now that I've opened the envelope I am deffinatly wanting to explore being with a girl further. So I guess where the discomfort is coming in is not being sure how to go about it. As far as the afair being about hiding feelings of being Bi or gay. The afair is about sex period. And the fact that I don't get it from H. The threesome was just a side benifit of the afair. And if I continue to experiment and figure out that I'm Bi that's cool. (Doubt I figure out that I'm gay)
I've talked about it with AP a little this morning and came to the conclusion that I'm probably not ready to go it alone with GF, although she'd be totally ok with me making a move for just the two of us. Ap agreed to arange more threesomes untill I'm a little more comfertable and ready to go alone with her. I guess that I just needed to clear my thoughts a little yesterday so that I could move on with my day.
Thanks for your advise.
Well, sounds like you've come to a plan, of sorts.
Was this a one way encounter or did you reciprocate the contact with her?
Did she have contact with your AP?
I'm just wondering if either might be a reason why you feel a little uncomfortable.
Most of the contact was her touching me. I did finally relax enough to start to reciprocate some. There was also contact between her and him although most of his attention was focused on me. I don't think that is where the discomfert was coming from. I think it was just how new and unexpected the situation was. And how much enjoyed it which was also unexpected. We've aranged for another go. As time nears I find myself not as uncomfertable and even excited about it. Thanks to all for your support
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