Threesome - Location Location Location!

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Threesome - Location Location Location!
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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 2:57am

OK... I will just make this sweet and as short as possible! :)


Hubby and I have been talking about a threesome for the last few years.


We have found our interest *another woman*. We have been talking about different places... We want it to "just happen". As in I really don't want to rent a hotel room, then it feels rushed and "planned", has to be done within the next 24 hours dealy...


We have a gorgeous home, with a master suite. Now, the obstical here is we have two children ages 3 and 9. They both sleep very deeply and I really don't think they are going to be a problem. But, then with the same respect, I don't

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 07-23-2010 - 9:05am
I've never participated in a 3some. But personally, I wouldn't want to do that in my home, let alone my bedroom. I think that's something that you and your dh need to be comfortable with. If you both are then



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Registered: 05-18-2006
Fri, 07-23-2010 - 12:18pm

I wish there was a relative close by.. We moved to another state and have noone here. So they can't stay out of the home.


We have talked about it and are ok with bringing it in our home and bedroom, I just have the kids in mind and putting them first in thought about what to do. They aren't going to see anything or hear anything, but they are still my first concern...

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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 3:54pm
I agree, as they should be the primary concern. Do they have friends whose houses they could go to?



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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 4:05pm

I wouldn't have a problem with having her joining us in our bedroom. If I am comfortable enough for her to join us in bed I wouldn't have a problem with her being in ours.

We don't have kids but if we did I wouldn't want them to be home if it was going to happen there. Who knows? they could have a bad dream or need to go to the bathroom and I wouldn't want them to hear any noises coming from the room. Maybe, send them to a babysitter friend but then it kind of goes into the 'planned' thing you wanted to avoid.

Do you have someone in mind or you just looking at this point?

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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 6:18pm

I would be uncomfortable playing with a couple if their children were home. It would be hard to reax enough to enjoy the situation when in the back of my mind, I'd constantly be worried about "are the kids going to come in here?"


When DW and I first started to play with others, our SOP was to meet te other person in a bar for a drink, where we could spend a little time getting to know each other and getting comfortable with the situation. When the time was right, we'd move to a hotel room.


That does require some advance planning, but to be honest, if you want a threesome to work, you have to have outlined ground rules ahead of time, and be sure everyone is on the same page.

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Registered: 02-04-2007
Sat, 09-04-2010 - 10:59am

I have to agree with Martini that a hotel would be best. It doesn't have to be the wham bam thank you ma'am that a hotel encounter might lead you to imagine.

Our first and to date only encounter involved meeting a woman in another city and ending up back at our hotel. DW and I had many conversations with each other over the parameters and our guest was well aware of them and understood. On the day DW and I had a leisurely breakfast, shopped and had lunch before meeting our friend. Then we had drinks and nice conversation with her, the two women did some shopping and then the 3 of us went do dinner. Because there was an comfort as friends throughout the day we knew the night in bed was going to be more comfortable. Planning is key to a successful evening.

While my DW and I aren't likely to bring a woman to our bed we are more comfortable with the thought of it now. Since deciding to make a threeway reality our children have grown to 13 and 16. (Been working toward a quality threeway since before they were born!) As teens they aren't inclined to come to our room anymore with bad dreams. At their age they are too engrossed with texting, tv and other screens to want to be around mom and dad.

Even so we would have to be quite particular as to who we allowed in our bed and the scenario. The only possibility we see right now is a good friend of my wife's whom we are sure would like to join us. She know's our kids and spends time at our house often.

If you think you might risk this how is your house laidd out? Do the kids sleep near your room? Is there a possibility they could see your friend leave your room?

The configuration of our house lends itself to our friend discretely visiting our bed. The kids sleep upstairs and spend awake hours there at night. We sleep downstairs at the other end of the house. Behind a locked door when having IC etc. My wife's friend at times spends the night (long drive home) and the guest room has a door to the pool area as does ours. Should any sharing of a room happen the travel back and forth would happen via the patio not in the house where a teen seeking a late snack might see our friend returning post threesome from our room.

I guess I've rambled a bit, bottom line is don't overlook the benefit of a hotel room. The time spent planning and the little bit of money spent is far better than the chance of a little one walking in on mommy between the legs of another woman. Besides, who doesn't agree that hotel sex can be some of the best sex a married couple can have. Why bring stress to what should be a stress free event?