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tonights the big night
| Thu, 07-13-2006 - 6:54pm |
she's currently showering and they're going to meet at a movie theater for a movie that starts at 8:30. my heart is pounding out of my chest!!!!!! i don't know what to do with myself now - let alone after she leaves. i brought home some work to occupy myslef, but i'm glad that i made sure i didn't plan on getting it done. i dont think i'll be able to focus on anything.

Hi
I would suggest that you arrange for a place that is safe for their meeting after the movie. I did not and ended up bringing him home to an empty house. Not a smart thing to do.
Stay busy, find something that you enjoy and can immerse yourself in.
You might even suggest a MFM if thy are willing.
Wish her good luck from me.
Kat
I agree that you should keep busy. Make sure she has a cell phone.
Good luck.
Hamil
she just left. i think its a good thing too, because we have a danger of pre talk overload. there's only somuch you can say about something. she looks great. i mean, she's dressed for a first date, and i'm glad because its not like she's dressed for a sex date or something (though if he gets to her underwear, he's in for a treat).
my mind is racing. you guys say i hope everything goes well, and i know you mean you hope everything between is us is what we wanted when its all said and done, but its kind of like, what does that mean? i feel like i should be asking you guys what to expect when she comes home, but I have this feeling like its a win/win situation. if she gets lucky, and its great, awesome. if she can get lucky, but decides against it, we know its not for us. there's only three things i hope don't happen. i hope she doesn't have a miserable time. i hope that she doesn't hold back on account of being shy (which is very possible - and she was nervous about going out with somebody on a first date type thing even though she knows him), and i hope that if she does decide to go for it, its good and not a 'why did i go through that' experience.
i guese i have this assumption that they'll have sex - partly because i know my friend and his liklihood of scoring if the potential is there - but she could very likely just enjoy it as a date. she could also get to some base before home and stop there. who knows. but - this was her fantasy before it was mine - and i can't immagine that she's not even more psyched up than i am. i mean, its hard to sit there - but immagine how she is feeling on the way to the movies. my take is that she is shy about her body and doesn't want to feel like a bimbo but that she feels this is her one shot at this, so if she blows it she'll kick herself for a while.
think she'd give me clues about disposition? when i told her to have fun as he left she said 'i just might . . . ' what a way to leave me hanging! boy, i wish i could fast forward the night to the part where she comes home.
well, if she brings him to our apartment i'll be here. who knows - maybe that three way would happen! i have a gut feeling it would end the night with us talking about college days, though.
he's got a room he's staying in while he's here. other than that, we didn't plan to much logisitically. we talked aobut it. we figured if there is a wil there's a way, and if it comes down to it, there is always the car. but when we started talking about that, it started seeming like more of a sex date, which was a turn off to both of us. its like a fun date, where sex is absolutely not off the table.
as for the safe thing - i don't worry too much because we all know each other. she's met him three or four times at parties, but i know him very well. i mean, i know that when its just a guy and a girl, guy's might be capable of things you wouldn't suspect. but this is about as safe as i can see something like this possibly being.
plus, this guys a smooth character. its one of the reasons i am glad it turned out this way. if a woman is willing, he knos what to do with that willingness. and he doesn't take no personally. one of our sayings: 'if its that good, than eat it yourself'.
i'm not worried about the logisitics. i guese i'm not really worried. i'm in this zone where something big could be happening at any moment, but i an't see. like, imagine watching a football game you have a real interest in, and the kicker is about to attempt a field goal to win (or lose) the game with only seconds on the clock - and then the power goes out. you know you're going to find out who won, but until then its biting nails.
am i rambling. sorry. i'm just crazy right now.
Hi
I am new to this board but have been where your gal is now. You are not the only one with a knot in your gut. I went with the goal of sex. Well as things progressed I started to get the feeling.... What am I doing>>>>> DH was at home waiting for us. I sneaked into the bathroom just before we got to it and called DH. Made sure he was OK with it. Then proceeded with the deed.
The deed was not all that spectacular. When I got home DH was a little reluctant to talk about it and so was I. I am sure that he had many second thoughts.
After that we decided to only do threesomes if DH was in the loop.
For us it is much better as we both can call a halt to it if we are uncomfortable.
Nickel
Welcome to the board, Nickel.
Yes I have but never during the act. It was before we really started and the guy started to get a little over the edge about how great he was in bed. Totally turned me off and I asked him to leave. By the time we get to the bedroom I feel that I am committed and unless he was just awful or had something amiss I would go through with it.
That said we only do it now with two other guys. Have never found a F that wanted to have a FMF. Not sure that I would want that though.
Nickel