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| Wed, 04-12-2006 - 10:34am |
Have you ever been w/a guy that seemed too big for your body? Where it was difficult to get situated and during it was a pain yet pleasure and ended in pain, and soreness the next day? almost as if there was not enough lubrication even though there was?
I'm just curious because I have this issue w/my dh. For a long time I thought something was wrong w/me. I was using extra lubrication. It would be painful yet enough pleasure where I could reach orgasm, then immedietly it would really start to hurt and even feel more dry.
Once I became involved w/my bf It occured to me that it wasn't so much my body...my bf isn't as large as my dh....and there are no lubrication issues, I have longer orgasms and no pain at any point, and no soreness.
I still enjoy being w/my dh......I just don't know if there is anything I can do to help the problem out. I've told him that it hurts and he's just too big...but he thinks i'm kidding...yeah, NO! not kidding.....LOL....

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Is it length or width or both?
DW is used to always be on top because I could "bottom out" and it would hurt. Erect I'm a little over 7" but I'm very wide. We have to take it very, very slow at first until she adjusts to me. There is a lot of clitoral stimulation and she covers my penis with her juices by rubbing herself on me before we begin. There are some poistions where the penis can go under the cervex and there is a little more room but I'd have to look for that article again. DW had a hysterectomy and now we don't seem to have the "bottoming out" issue but we really have taken it slow since then (along with other things stopping us from IC) so the jury is still out. I'm definatley NOT recommending a hysterectomy to make things feel better though ;)
DH always has a bit of a time getting in, because of his width.
Lover has "bottomed out" once where it hurt, but now that I told him, he is careful not to be too careless with the "in thrust" DH causes some soreness and we need lube almost every time, where with lover we do not.
Have you tried going at it from different angles?
we've tried it all...LOL....
don't get me wrong I still enjoy it..but I feel bad because I don't want it as often as he'd like because of that....
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