Too big

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Registered: 08-12-2005
Too big
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Wed, 04-12-2006 - 10:34am

Have you ever been w/a guy that seemed too big for your body? Where it was difficult to get situated and during it was a pain yet pleasure and ended in pain, and soreness the next day? almost as if there was not enough lubrication even though there was?

I'm just curious because I have this issue w/my dh. For a long time I thought something was wrong w/me. I was using extra lubrication. It would be painful yet enough pleasure where I could reach orgasm, then immedietly it would really start to hurt and even feel more dry.

Once I became involved w/my bf It occured to me that it wasn't so much my body...my bf isn't as large as my dh....and there are no lubrication issues, I have longer orgasms and no pain at any point, and no soreness.

I still enjoy being w/my dh......I just don't know if there is anything I can do to help the problem out. I've told him that it hurts and he's just too big...but he thinks i'm kidding...yeah, NO! not kidding.....LOL....

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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: dolphinchic2005
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 10:55am
I had a BF once when I was much younger that was quite big.


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Registered: 08-12-2005
In reply to: dolphinchic2005
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 11:45am
he never goes all the way in...I don't think I could stand it if he did...I think some of it is the way i'm built as well.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: dolphinchic2005
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 11:53am
have you ever read the Kama Sutra?


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Registered: 08-12-2005
In reply to: dolphinchic2005
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 12:04pm
I would like to read about that. Its funny that you say that because me and my gf talk about how her and my dh are a perfect fit and me and my bf seem to be a perfect fit. I never realized how different I was down there until her and I started hooking up. Maybe that's what has been going on with me all these years. Thanks..i'll have to look up the info!
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Registered: 03-17-2006
In reply to: dolphinchic2005
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 12:06pm

Is it length or width or both?

DW is used to always be on top because I could "bottom out" and it would hurt. Erect I'm a little over 7" but I'm very wide. We have to take it very, very slow at first until she adjusts to me. There is a lot of clitoral stimulation and she covers my penis with her juices by rubbing herself on me before we begin. There are some poistions where the penis can go under the cervex and there is a little more room but I'd have to look for that article again. DW had a hysterectomy and now we don't seem to have the "bottoming out" issue but we really have taken it slow since then (along with other things stopping us from IC) so the jury is still out. I'm definatley NOT recommending a hysterectomy to make things feel better though ;)

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Registered: 08-12-2005
In reply to: dolphinchic2005
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 12:11pm
I think its a little of both since he has such a hard time getting in me..even when i'm lubed or soaked...and he can't go all the way in me. My gf says it seems as if i'm tilted a bit...I know her G spot and mine are in 2 different places as well as where she likes outer stimulation.
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Registered: 01-22-2005
In reply to: dolphinchic2005
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 1:19pm
I am much more comfy with my lover as well, he is longer but thinner than my DH. DH is about 61/2" and lover is about 8".
DH always has a bit of a time getting in, because of his width.
Lover has "bottomed out" once where it hurt, but now that I told him, he is careful not to be too careless with the "in thrust" DH causes some soreness and we need lube almost every time, where with lover we do not.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: dolphinchic2005
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 3:43pm

Have you tried going at it from different angles?

 

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Registered: 08-12-2005
In reply to: dolphinchic2005
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 3:52pm

we've tried it all...LOL....

don't get me wrong I still enjoy it..but I feel bad because I don't want it as often as he'd like because of that....

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Registered: 08-16-2005
In reply to: dolphinchic2005
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 5:26pm
I was seeing an older guy with a very large penis. I guess you'd call me petite and the first time I saw it it scared me but he was nice and at first we used lots of lube and later I got used to it but I'd be sore sometimes the next day. I'm pregnant by him and I still see him once in a while but I'm not hung up on size.

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