Ugh can't stand DH these days

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Ugh can't stand DH these days
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Tue, 09-15-2009 - 2:26am

A little background: DH has often pleaded for sex in the past, played the "you don't love me" card if I didn't deal...and after 16+ years I finally put my foot down and said I'd had it. I no longer enjoy sex at *all* (it was painful for many years, no longer is, but just squicks me out right now). I said no more sex and to give me space and time please. First couple of days he asked if I could give him a hug each day at least. OK I said fine. I said right now, I don't desire him at ALL...I feel more towards him like a friend than anything else and have no wish to DTD. But this is not even a week later and he asked me to masturbate in front of him tonight. How is that space and time? I felt like puking really...it's not right sexually between us and this doesn't make it any better to keep trying to force the issue if I'm not into it IMO.

I don't know if I can get back to desiring him (there are a myriad of factors at work here) but I *know* I just feel more and more dread every time I felt I had to "put out" so I said enough is enough.

After asking *me* to masturbate, DH pulled his pants down and started doing so. I just left the room finally. :-(

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Registered: 01-02-2001
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 3:49am
I guess my question would have to be, "Why are you still married?"
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 7:23am

Hi and welcome.


What happened to cause you to feel this way towards dh? In your profile you say you want to be with the one you love, so I take it to mean you have someone on the side? Why do you stay married?



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Registered: 03-08-2004
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 8:31am

I have the same question, why are the two of you still married?

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Registered: 05-04-2008
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 11:11am

Hi


I would like you to read the following thread so that you can get a perspective of the effects of what you are doing.


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