watch another couple?? would you?

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watch another couple?? would you?
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Thu, 07-27-2006 - 3:45pm

I'm conflicted.
My DH and I have been married for over 2.5 yrs. We have 1 child. He is the only person i have been with and he has been with 3 others before we met. I want to watch another couple have sex but i'm afraid of what it will do to our relationship. I have asked Dh what he thinks and he's up for it. I'm afraid that once he sees the other couple he will want to join in or find another woman to have sex with. i have to say that i thinki would freak out if i ever saw another women touch him. i would have to kill her.

Has anyone had experiences with this? What was the effect on your marriage? How did SO act?

Thanks to cl-newbie32 for referring me to this board.

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Thu, 07-27-2006 - 4:06pm

Welcome to Taboos, Amanda.

 

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Thu, 07-27-2006 - 4:29pm
We do watch porn together aand usually only make it to the 2nd or 3rd scene and we're focused on each other. I think if we had those ground rules where there was no touching allowed i would be ok with us watching. I am ready for going to the strip club, i'm going to bring that up before we decide on jumping into watching people.
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Fri, 07-28-2006 - 5:41am
I agree with Jazz, if you're uncomfortable now, what will you do if another woman flirts?


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Sun, 07-30-2006 - 10:46am
Not sure that I would since being there would be too much of a temptation. However, have you considered looking at any of the web cam sites together? My husband and I do and I have to say it is a great turn on.
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Sun, 07-30-2006 - 12:17pm
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Mon, 07-31-2006 - 9:39pm

Hi Amanda,

I read your post and that I would like to tell you about our sucessful time that me and my girlfriend at the time watched another couple have sex.It too was her that bought it up and I told her that I too wondered what it would be like to watch 2 people have sex.
To my understanding that she had already talked about it with a co-worker whom she worked with and she had talked it over with her man.The night before we met the couple she lay out all the rules and I told her that it won't be any problem with me abiding by them as long as she do the same,so we both agreed on the rules that she had sat.Well we got invited out to a movie with them,that night me and my g/f met her friend and her man at the movies that Saturday night.After the movie we stop and got something to eat and then proceeded on to their place where things was supose to take place.When we arrived at their place we all got out and went in,pulled off our coats and relaxed while one of them turned on the tv.While watching tv he got up,went over and slipped in a tape while she went into the bedroom for a few moments.When she returned she had on a rope then sat back down and we all watched the tape that he had put in which was a porn tape.A few minutes later they started kissing eachother,then she started taking his clothes off and before I knew it they were going at it.They got off of the coach and onto the floor.We sat there and watched as long as we could before we had to have eachother.We did get to see them finish everything that they were doing before we left to go home(which we didn't make all the way)to have sex ourself.we were sooo horny aroused for eachother that I had to find a pull off spot and we went at it in the back seat of her car.To me that night was the best sex that we had ever had since we had been dating.Yes we got invited back and during one of them times we had sex in the same room as them and none of us touched eachothers partner.We stayed with our own partner,because that was the rule and agreement that we had made with eachother from the start.So that experience I can say went VERY well with us and the other couple too.
Like some of the others have mentioned.Make sure if this is something you 2 would like to experience and can agree on what rule that is sat for each of you as well as the couple whom is letting you watch.I believe it can be a possitive experience for the 2 of you as long as the 2 of you has that understanding of the dos and don'ts.

That's our experience on watching another couple have sex.
Howie_t

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Tue, 08-01-2006 - 1:08am

Howie, you da man!

 

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Tue, 08-01-2006 - 9:20am
That's one of my fantasies as well. Actually one of the few that I have shared with dw that I didn't get the "why did I marry you look." Does that mena it's a possibility, I don't think so but it makes the fantasy better that she wasn't repulsed by it.