what do you do when...

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what do you do when...
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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 12:39pm
your partner just isn't responsive to your needs, or doesn't even notice(or ignores, most likely)


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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 12:45pm

HMmmm... Good Question Lil'M....LOL ;)

It makes me feel rejected, even if we still make love, there's more to sex and making love that simple allowing it to happen. I'm very thankful that My SO rarely ever turns me down, but it sure would be nice to know I'm WANTED, and not just ACCEPTED.
I actually find myself flirting more with others, just to get some of that needed attention.

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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 1:05pm
I know what you mean, nothing feels better than knowing another person just CRAVES you.


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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 1:13pm
Yes, and saying it means a lot,
but SHOWING it is ...heaven. ;P....and funner.
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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 1:32pm
I feel very isolated and unappreciated. I am contantly ignored. On numerous occasions I have been told to go find a FWB. I have asked to her to go get help but no luck. She blames all of her problems on our son. He is part of it but not all of it.
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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 1:36pm
I'm so sorry to hear that MWC
I've been there with my ex for 11 years. It was a living hell. She told me to go elsewhere also. I did once and regretted it still. So much guilt I felt, even with her telling me too.
My only way out after much counseling and such, was to divorce.


Edited 7/2/2006 1:38 pm ET by luvlickin
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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 1:42pm
I have tried to get her to seek help but no luck. I'm not going anywhere because of our son. Even though he is a challenge some day our lives are richer with him than without.
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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 1:53pm
I understand for sure. I stayed for many years because of my son. Then one day it became aparent that he would be better off having two separated HAPPY parents than not.
We equally share time with him and all three are much happier people.
I'm not saying that is for you, it has just worked good for us. and my parents were the same also.
It does happen and turn out good sometimes.
Good luck to you whatever you do.:)
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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 2:32pm

Oh, that happened with my ex.

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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 3:04pm
I researched for ideas and gave everything and anything a try. I spoke to him until I was exhausted about my needs. When he still wasn't listening I turned to others to listen, and to counseling. And after years, I found physical companionship elsewhere.
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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 3:25pm

I just thought that maybe you weren't looking for an answer so deep. In the beginning I did the banging the pots, slamming doors, blocking the TV, etc kind of things. I undressed in the middle of the day in the kitchen, sent him erotic e-mails during the work day, simulated fellatio on food at the table, and many other ideas I read (way too numerous to remember now).

The man could block out an atom bomb if he wanted to. I looked up my first love and was corresponding with him again after 30+ years. Three times I told my husband, and three times he just ignored me. So, there won't be a fourth time.

I can't put into words how it makes me feel. Oddly, I know he loves me. I know he has never cheated on me. I though have cheated on him, and although I wish I had never felt the need to do so, I do not feel guilty about having done so.

The feelings of lonliness and I guess a lack of feeling appreciated were causing me to shut down emotionally.

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