What do you teach your kids?

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Registered: 05-25-2006
What do you teach your kids?
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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 2:49am

Hi. I was just wondering, with your lifestyle and all, what do you plan to teach your kids about things like sex,porn, masturbation, etc..

One of my ex-girlfriends (I'm a lesbian), lets call her J, mother actually taught her how to masturbate when she was 16. Not just the "talk", but J actually got naked and her mom showed her where to put her fingers and how to achieve an orgasm. J's mom watched her have her first orgasm. They were pretty open about it. J's mom would sometimes masturbate with the door open. J would to. When me and J were dating her mom would actually let me sleep over, even though she probably knew if on the ocassion I did, I'd probably be having sex with J. Most people have trouble letting their heterosexual kids have sex in the house, she let her lesbian daughter do it! J was 16 when her mom started allowing this stuff. Before that they talked about it, but they never saw anything.

She even gave J a few porn videos and magazines so that she could get off whenever she wanted to. Of course she made sure it didn't become an obsession, but they were so liberal about it. Js mom told me once she didn't want her daughter to grow up thinking sex was something to be ashamed of like she did.

How sexually open are you around your kids? Would you ever masturbate in front of them? Would you let them masturbate in front of you? For those of you that have daughters would you ever teach them how to masturbate? Of course this is considering that they're old and mature enough for it to be consensual.

May sound like wierd questions but considering your open lifestyles, what would you want for your kids and what you would teach them.

Edited 5/26/2006 2:50 am ET by wildgirlss




Edited 5/26/2006 3:02 am ET by wildgirlss

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Registered: 07-16-2004
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 11:10am
I admire your honestly. Its different strokes for different folks. ok heres a twist. if ur a sexologist by proffession. And your child(young udult) comes to you and asks you for advice of problems in bed. You advise,, but if it didnt help, would you suggestion they go to another sexologist and have them examined while in the act (as i understand it happens) or would you do it yourself?
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Registered: 01-28-2004
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 11:26am

Hello Everyone -


While we welcome discussions on your views about sexual education, we would ask that you avoid discussions

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