what do your kids know?

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Registered: 09-16-2003
what do your kids know?
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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 12:04pm
if you have kids, what do they know about sex?


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Registered: 05-15-2006
Tue, 07-11-2006 - 12:08pm
They know we have sex. I mean DD once jumped onto our bed when DW was still nude. But they (especially DD) don't like thinking about it-something about us being too old for sex.
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 07-11-2006 - 12:20pm
My boys are definitely old enough to know all about it. We don't hide it very much. Shouts in exstacy are not muffled, flirts are not secretive, toys are not hidden away. We hear them sometimes in their room talking about it and giggling. I think they like the fact that we are having sex...makes them feel, well safe and secure. Especially when it is a thing that 'two people in love do to show it to each other' as they have been taught.
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Registered: 03-09-2006
Tue, 07-11-2006 - 12:55pm

Ummm...if my 3yo knew what sex was I really need to change the pre-school that he goes to!


But really at home, DH and I don't hide anything.

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Registered: 09-09-2005
Tue, 07-11-2006 - 1:03pm
Well I have a 19 month and a 4 month old they don't know what sex is but we do show plenty of affection to each other with the kids around.
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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 2:05pm
Our kids are too young to know about sex... at least in my opinion. We are very affectionate around them, though. My 5 year old found a vibe once and my DH told her it was a massager, lol. I've tried to be much more careful about where I put them up since then.
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Registered: 05-18-2006
Tue, 07-11-2006 - 2:26pm

My son accidentally put in one of our porn movies. We have a large collection and forgot to take it out of the dvd player.

He asked a few questions, we answered them honestly and that was it. He's 13, old enough to "get it."

We are very open. It's not like we invite them to swing from the chandeliers.....

The other night my daughter pointed out very innocently that I forgot my bathing suit while swimming. I said "No baby, mommy and daddy wanted to be like this." She and my son both looked at each other, rolled their eyes and ran off to play.

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Tue, 07-11-2006 - 5:06pm

Well,

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Tue, 07-11-2006 - 8:25pm
My DW is very shy about her sexuality around the kids. On many occasions that I have felt more than a little horny and making my moves she has said the kids are still up. Tell me if Im wroung here, but isnt that what locks are for. My kids are 18 girl, 16 girl, 11 boy.
We all share the same PC in the house and I have this site bookmarked. My oldest DD has a BF that stays here more than his own home. And yes he spends the nite here too. Does that make me a bad parent? But thats a topic for another post. The PC is the only form of sex information in the house. We dont have any toys to hide. And my man cave is pretty much all bussines, just tools and automotive things. Im sure they know whats going on they just dont say anything about it. And no we dont talk about sex with the kids. Its not that we wont its just never been brought up. Hdog
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Tue, 07-11-2006 - 9:19pm

Howdy! I'm always in the minority on this. Maybe I'm just not typical for ladies who post here. I'm just exceptionally uncomfortable with my kids knowing anything about me and sex. Period.

What if they found out I'm not monogamous? Well, I'm not going to tell them about it. If they figure it out, it's because they have the maturity to figure out my behavior. If asked if I'm cheating, I'll clarify that we do stuff with consent only.

The closest call I had with that was when I was reading "Open Marriage" (an old book from the 70s, reading it for a poly discussion group). I had put the book open, cover up, on my bed. My son came into the room and asked where we were going that night... he sat on the bed... ON THE BOOK... I told him I had a book discussion group (not mentioning it was a polyamory group). He asked what book. I realized he was SITTING on the book at that moment, and I started laughing and I said, "I'm not going to tell you! And you need to get out of my room now!" He asked why, and I just laughed and said that it was because I'm his mom and I'm bigger than he is (he's 6'2" and 250 lbs... I'm 5'5" and 125 pounds). He just laughed and shrugged and left.


"In Civilization and Its Discontents, Freud argued that civilization is founded on the repression of instincts. It now seems clear that one of those instincts leads us away from monogamy. Whether we choose to follow, on the other hand, is up to us."
-Dr. David P. Barash and Dr. Judith Eve Lipton,
"The Myth of Monogamy"

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Registered: 09-21-2004
Wed, 07-12-2006 - 12:54am

Well they know I sleep naked.

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