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When did you discover..
| Mon, 04-03-2006 - 2:56pm |
your appetite for sex?
Where you young or after you were married?
If it was when you were young did you hold back until you were married or let loose early?
If it was after you were married to you look back and think of the opportunities you passed on?

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When did you discover..your appetite for sex?
Where you young or after you were married? Fairly young...I'd say after my sex talk from my dad when he gave me a few of his Penthouse mags for "training materials".
If it was when you were young did you hold back until you were married or let loose early? It was not until just before meeting my now DW that I took the plunge. I had these grand illusions that sex in a trusting and loving relationship was the hottest and best...at least that is what women said. I learned later that many give it up more and hotter in those other situations that make them feel naughty as well, not like a loving wife. (jaded you think? live a year in my shoes and hear what I have heard)
If it was after you were married to you look back and think of the opportunities you passed on? All the time brutha...all the time.
I had a lot of sex when I was young, but it wasn't so much an appetite for sex as it was an appetite for affection.
I discovered a true appetite for sex with dh when we first got together.
~ Jazz
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I understand! I think a lot of people who have sex when they are young do it looking for affection. DW heard somewhere that when young girls don't have a strong relationship with their father they look for affection from other males by having sex. DD and I are very close and spend at least one afternoon a week to ourselves shooting hoops, shopping, doing father/daughter dinners.
I started very young (I was youngest of 4 so I heard about sex early). My next door nieghbor was a sexy girl the same age as me. We experimented togather starting in the 4th grade. By the time I got to 7th grade my Dad had is own company and they were closed on Fridays so my parents went to the lake house on Thursday nights and my brother and I would either come up Friday or stay home. In high school I had the house to myself from Thursday night to Sunday night and had lots of fun (I miss those days - young, money, no responsibilities to speak of).
My senior year I started looking for more experienced women and started looking for older women to have sex with. That's when I actually discovered the true joy of sex and how it is when your both reall into it. My girl next door and I had great times all the way through hight school moving out into public sex and threesomes but athat was because we were so comfortable with each other.
I did explain this to her and she half agreed and half didn't. The part that disagreed was the part that realized how much of a mindset shift was needed and not wanting to go through that pain and effort...and I can see that in just the simplest of intimate actions...that it is effort and she does not pursue it since it kills her mood at the same time.
I always learn something here...good or bad.
And I am so not the father figure either! LOL that's the kicker! I am just a big kid!
One of my best friends is going through this now. His DW and he had fun but never had IC during until they got married (she was a virgin). From all the play they had he expected lots of sex. Just the opposite happened and she frankly didn't care if hey had sex. After seeing a therapist the playing they did before they got married was to intice him and help land him. Then once she was married she fell into the roll of married wife that she always saw her mother as. It took a phone call to her mom and asked her to talk about sex with her. Once she understood that sex was a healthy part of her parents relationship that completly changed her desire and she saw her parents as a couple not just mom and dad or husband/wife partnership to run a household.
DW had a simular hang up in the fact her mom always told her sex including masturbation was bad. She got over the sex thing except for trying new things and is still shy about using toys and has not maturebated but once in her life.
At about 16 I discovered purely accidently how to masterbate LOL :-)
I always wanted to wait til I found the right person to marry before I had sex and I did it!! My DH was the only one I had ever been with til we started our trio life over a year ago.
I never look back with regret that I waited and wasn't wild sexually. I am proud that I waited and am glad that I didn't take up some of the chances I had.
man I'm getting sick of this pity party I have going here! time to focus on the fun life has to offer!
your appetite for sex? my serious appetite has just happened in the last 7 months
Where you young or after you were married? after I was married
If it was when you were young did you hold back until you were married or let loose early? When I was younger I don't know why I liked having sex...I never had orgasms..didn't even know what they were until much later in life, and still didn't enjoy sex as much as I do now. I truely believe it is because I wasn't in tune w/my own body, and I was hiding who I really was..for fear of letting loose.
If it was after you were married to you look back and think of the opportunities you passed on? yep!
I agree totally. I had a very bad experience when I was about 17 and it stayed with me for a long long time. I have been with DH for years now but its only recently I have discovered how to enjoy sex without having the occasional flashback to the bad experience I had.
DH has been extremely patient over the years but I am now in my 30's and very sexual, probably want it more than he does, thoroughly enjoy every aspect of our lovemaking whether it be a "quickie" or a long, passionate session and love to be spontaneous.
Just shows if you persevere it all works out in the end.
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