Am I missing Out?

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Registered: 04-21-2007
Am I missing Out?
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Sat, 04-19-2008 - 10:41pm

Someone I'm dating made me an offer: 2 men and me. I am nervous and afraid of being labeled a whore. Plus I am not too sure about doing it with a guy I like and am dating and his friend. How will I feel about myself afterwards? What will I think of him? I like this guy a lot and want more than just a fling with him.


Am I over-thinking this or should I just go for it?

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Registered: 03-14-2008
Sat, 04-19-2008 - 11:54pm
Unfortunately, you are the only one that can truly answer these questions....but imho, if you are asking them that would mean that you have doubts, and i think a 3 way, with someone you are dating and care about and one of his friends, could be big trouble...now i am not judging anyone who partakes in this type of activity, i am sure there are plenty of people who do this and enjoy it and there are no problems....however, i think the only way this can be succesful is if all parties are completely on board and feel positive about it...if you are just doing it for him...imho, you will feel bad about yourself afterwards, and imo, it would cause problems in your relationship...and even if you are not doing it just for him...i think you owe it to all involved to wait, and make sure you have no doubts about this before you continue with this...if he continues to ask for this..you might want to question where your relationship is in his mind.....i am sure there will be others however who will be by, who do have experiences to share, they would know better than I would, as i have never been in this position in a relationship, nor have i ever been in a 3 way...sorry i could not help more...

cl-sandif2008
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Registered: 04-20-2008
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 11:15am
I have a feeling this is a regular gig for this guy with every woman he gets involved with. Wouln't be a smart move on your part.

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Registered: 04-21-2007
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 4:38pm

Yes, he seems to be very comfortable with the idea and has a friend already set-up. Most men I know would never want to share with another man *shrug*. I don't know the friend, never met him. I admit, I have sexual fantasies that involve multiple partners, but I don't want to share my body with anyone else. I might use the fantasy to get off, but it's a whole different story doing that irl.

thanks Donald

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 5:23pm

If this is NOT something you are absolutely sure you want then don't do it.

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Registered: 04-20-2008
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 6:06pm
Your welcome LG.