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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 1:51pm
so how does everyone feel on the subject, im goin to be honest i enjoy it! have been doin it since i was 16 and although i prefer 'traditional' ways, i dont see anything wrong with bein a bit extra naughty occassionally! my partner also likes me to put my finger in his ass during sex. comments? thoughts?

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Registered: 11-18-2011
In reply to: bexxmcqueen
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 2:16pm
Sounds good to me
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Registered: 01-03-2007
In reply to: bexxmcqueen
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 3:08pm

Love it on her, love it on me!

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Registered: 04-20-2012
In reply to: bexxmcqueen
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 3:24pm

Love both.

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Registered: 04-23-2012
In reply to: bexxmcqueen
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 4:09pm

My hubby is interested in this and I honestly don't mind exploring it at all. We have tried a few times and it is a little painful. We can't seem to find the best position either. =/ I would love to be able to fulfill this fantasy of his. Do you have any tips or anything. I know we need to use lube and that I need to relax but is there anything else that may help make it easier?

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Registered: 04-20-2012
In reply to: bexxmcqueen
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 6:29pm

The other golden rule you didn't mention is "take your time". You are being very, very generous to explore this with him. Given that, I would say make it an additional part of your lovemaking - do your normal thing, and have your normal thing be what brings you/him to orgasm, but do a little exploring with the anal stuff without pushing it too far (ie fingers, small toys, etc) in addition to your regular repertoire. Don't expect for it to end up with full penetration/thrusting for a good long while yet. If he can resist that until you're ready, you'll get there eventually. Don't "bite off more than you can chew" - that will likely turn you off of if from the start.

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Registered: 04-20-2012
In reply to: bexxmcqueen
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 6:31pm

Oh, also, despite what advertising might say, I have to say do not use numbing lube. It will give you a false sense of what is going on and you can hurt yourself or be sore for a very long time because you find you've overdone it. Just go slow and use plenty of regular lube - and when you thing you have enough regular lube, use some more.

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Registered: 04-23-2012
In reply to: bexxmcqueen
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 6:37pm
Torri~Thank you so much! That is so helpful! I really appreciate that and can't wait to explore it further. You have gave me confidence and made me feel a lot better about the situation. Thank you. ;-)
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Registered: 04-20-2012
In reply to: bexxmcqueen
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 7:03pm

Here's something else that might help, that I sort of hinted at above, I guess: you might see if he'd be willing to just explore after he gets off - then he might not be quite as wound up. You might find that he takes more time and goes more slowly and gently (although this will only work until you get to the point where you're ready to try him penetrating you, depending on how quickly he is able to recharge, so to speak).

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Registered: 04-23-2012
In reply to: bexxmcqueen
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 7:08pm
Oh ok. Yes, that would be something for us to try as well. Thank you.
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Registered: 04-20-2012
In reply to: bexxmcqueen
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 8:31pm

You're welcome! I hope some or all of this helps!

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