To B true to oneself?

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To B true to oneself?
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Sun, 05-04-2008 - 7:51am

ok all here I go again with some more questions :)


Do you find online you can be whomever you want?


In real life are you the same person, would you say the same things you say online?


Are you as open with you daily friends and family as you are with people on this board?


Personally I have a hard time speaking up for myself in daily events offline. Any suggestions on how one can be true to oneself?


Let me put it this way, on this board everyone is great! I have never run accross any judgement but in real life I feel I am judged every day. Yes I have some very negative people in my life and some of them are family. So on this board I can say what

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Registered: 01-28-2008
Sun, 05-04-2008 - 8:56am

"Do you find online you can be whomever you want?"


Yes, that is a possibility, but I do like to believe I am me on online. Just more of me without any reservations.



"In real life are you the same person, would you say the same things you say online?"


In real life I





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Registered: 08-03-2003
Sun, 05-04-2008 - 9:28am

CBH thank you so much for your reply!!!!!! I am doing some soul searching and trying to weed out the negative people in my life. Recently I found out some women who I thaught were my friends have been talking very negative about me and spreading lies. So that is what has me in a funk! Because I am not a judgemental person I have a hard time dealing with others who are.


I really liked when you said "Some people you deal with in real life can be dealt with directly, and others it just isn't worth it. Some won't

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Sun, 05-04-2008 - 9:59am

I'm the same person in life as I am here. Do I talk about sex/masturbation etc. with my family - nope. I will though with certain female friends (not so much with the guy friends because then it turns into sleazy "guy talk" lol). But my gal friends can ask me anything they want about my life and I'll probably tell them. I have 3 cousins (all sisters) that are always bugging me to go "get laid" LOL

I have a brother but we don't talk about really personal things. I don't bother since we are both very different people. He's super religous/conservative and wouldn't even go camping with his x girlfriend because he thought it would be awful to sleep in the same tent. Obviously - I'm a little different than that.

But I do have friends that hear a lot of details and some family that hears some stuff from me as well.

And as some of you gals may have noticed, I have a bit of a fresh/flirty/mildly dirty sense of humor at times - this is something that all of my friends get to see on a regular basis.

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Sun, 05-04-2008 - 10:15am
Hey I almost didn't reccognize you with a new siggy and new sign in name. Hope you are doing good.
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Sun, 05-04-2008 - 10:36am

Do you find online you can be whomever you want? I am who I am, Ladyroberts is just a small part of me.


In real life are you the same person, would you say the same things you say online? Yes..I do watch what I say to clients though


Are you as open with you daily friends and family as you are with people on this board? yes, I am


Personally I have a hard time speaking up for myself in daily events offline. Any suggestions on how one can be true to oneself? I find that if it is something

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Sun, 05-04-2008 - 10:44am

I had sign-in issues a couple weeks back and couldn't log in with the old screen name. And I changed my sig yesterday...2 girls are better than 1 ;-)

Ahhhh, I'm "the usual" I guess.

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Registered: 10-15-2006
Sun, 05-04-2008 - 11:27am

Do you find online you can be whomever you want


I have never been anything other than exactly who I am in life. I view these boards as a social setting, much like a party. I talk, tell stories of my life and joke...I also speak very seriously and frankly

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Registered: 02-17-2008
Sun, 05-04-2008 - 2:21pm

Do you find online you can be whomever you want?


I'm not that different in RL vs. on-line


In real life are you the same person, would you say the same things you say online?


Again, I don't have "two" personalities --- one for RL and the other for on-line -- I speak very much the same in RL as I do when I type it....


Are you as open with you daily friends and family as you are with people on this board?


I have a small group of close friends who I discuss sex, love and relationships with -- with them yes, but with family -- no except my two sisters.


Personally I have a hard time speaking up for myself in daily events offline. Any suggestions on how one can be true to oneself?


I have found that experience in conflict management has helped me in RL address such situations.

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Sun, 05-04-2008 - 4:22pm

Good afternoon…


Do you find online you can be whomever you want?



Can I be?

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Sun, 05-04-2008 - 8:05pm

Do you find online you can be whomever you want? Of course, I can. Online I can be quite different from the way I am in real life. This probably comes from the fact that when I first started online 10 years ago I started out in roleplaying game chat rooms, where I was always someone else and never myself.


In real life are you the same person, would you say the same things you say online? It depends on the circumstances. With friends and family I'm not as nice to them as I am to people online. I treat people online like I do with strangers in real life. I'm generally nice and polite to strangers in the grocery store and at the bank and whatnot. With friends and family I generally say what I feel.


Are you as open with you daily friends and family as you are with people on this board? That depends on the topic and whom I am talking to. If it is sex, then I am not open with my family and most of my friends, for the simple reason that I keep my sex life private, particularly since I'm kinky. They really don't need to know what Master and I do together behind the bedroom door. With my best friend, whom I have known for over 25 years, I've started to open up with her about my sex life, because she is beginning her own journey into the BDSM lifestyle.


Personally I have a hard time speaking up for myself in daily events offline. Any suggestions on how one can be true to oneself? There are many of you on this board that I can tell say what you think on and off the boards, how do you get to that place? So my fantasy is to be surrounded by people who love, respect and do not judge me in all that I do. Is that even possible? my fantasy is to have my life the way I want and need it to be, any suggestions?

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