Bondage, big deal?

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Registered: 07-14-2008
Bondage, big deal?
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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 6:19pm

Can some of you lend some advice over here:

http://www.wetv.com/blogs/love-letters/2008/07/boyfriend-wants-bondage.html

People are so uptight!

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 8:22pm

I'm not sure, but I believe the names of the couple giving the advice are Sphincter Man and Sphincter Woman.

Personally, I think you're giving them more attention than they deserve.

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 10:12pm
*rolls her eyes and shakes her head* People are always equating bondage with torture and bad pain. Serial killers have really given BDSM a bad rap!
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Registered: 08-03-2006
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 7:40am
Oh so true sisterhoney...so true...its such a shame so many people equate it with mental disfunction, violence

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 8:21am

Hi and welcome d. Will you please do us a huge favor? Fill in your profile so we can know something about you. Thanks! the people here are great, so stick around and jump in anytime.


I guess I'm not quite sure what kind of advice you're looking for. Why didn't she just ask him first what he had in mind, before shutting him off?

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Registered: 03-04-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 8:27am

Serial killers have really given BDSM a bad rap!


LMAO....Sorry Sis...but THAT totally cracked me up!!!

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Registered: 03-04-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 8:30am
I guess I'm less concerned about the issue of bondage vs. no bondage, here.

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Registered: 08-03-2006
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 8:43am
I have to agree with you fab. For me, asking for bondage the first time was a rather nerve racking experience. Even with someone you dearly love, asking them to tie you up and cause you pain is not an easy thing. Theres that horrible fear of rejection and your partner thinking your a freak. If its something you really desire, and you get rejected like that, it can be soul crushing.

Lothiriel


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Registered: 03-04-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 8:53am

And she wonders why he's been distant since?

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Registered: 08-03-2006
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 9:05am
I know seriously...it makes no sense to me. If you love and care for someone and your partner obviously trusts you enough to admit these desires why in the name of that is holy would you freak out on them?

Lothiriel


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All growth is a leap in the dark, a spontaneous unpremeditated act without benefit of experience ~Henry Miller

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Registered: 03-04-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 9:12am

Yeah, I don't get it either Loth.

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