Choking

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Registered: 12-10-2012
Choking
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Thu, 12-13-2012 - 8:10pm

Anyone else enjoy this? I keep hearing how dangerous it can be, but honestly... It's so hot!

I was so shy to ask my DH to choke me then one night we were going at it and I placed his hand around my throat... and he seemed to really enjoy it.

He's no where near as sexual and open about it as I am, so it was a great relief to see that he was comfortable with it and even excited by it.

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Registered: 02-23-2013
In reply to: _somaholiday
Tue, 02-26-2013 - 3:18am

Niema, this type of behavior is extremely dangerous. You're cutting off the oxygen to the brain, and there is no truly safe way to go about it. Regardless of how careful you try to be, the risk of death is always going to be very high; if you become unconscious, the risk increases. This is a medical fact, so if you'd like to know more about the risks involved with cutting off oxygen to your brain, you can search scholary and medical journals for articles on the topic, or you can ask a doctor. Hell, talk to a medical examiner or forensic pathologist. I'm sure they'd have had at least one case they could tell you about...not only with regards to loss of oxygen to the brain, but also about other cases if strangulation in general or erotic asphyxiation in particular. 

Even if you live through it/don't end up in a coma, there are the potential legal ramifications.  There have been news stories and scholarly articles written about court cases involving erotic asphyxiation ("breath play"), so you can easily look this up as well. If you are strangled to the point where you lose consciousness, you no longer have any way to know what is going on. There is no way to know how long you may end up being unconscious for. Can you trust your partner to not do anything to you while you're out, that wasn't consented to beforehand? If you're the one doing the strangling, can you trust that your partner won't later charge you with sexual assault? 

I have no problems with the BDSM lifestyle...it works great for a lot of people, and grown men and women are of course free to do what they want in the privacy of the bedroom. But this is completely different, in my opinion, from other BDSM activities that I'm aware of, because of the very real possibility of death. Every time you engage in this, you're basically playing Russian Roulette with the recipient's life.

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Registered: 02-25-2013
In reply to: Niema1989
Mon, 02-25-2013 - 9:40pm

The guy I'm seeing loves to choke his woman during sex. He is a heavy dom. Like you though, I find it dangerous. Not only does he like to choke, he likes to choke until you pass out. That's the part that concerns me. Just how dangerous is it? He is a very protective person and we have known each other for years. I know he has no intention of hurting me but choking me until I pass out... well, I'd like to know just how dangerous it is. You mentioned what can happen but where can I go to find more information?

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Registered: 02-23-2013
In reply to: greytie
Sat, 02-23-2013 - 3:25pm

A guy put his hand around my throat once while we were having sex, and let me tell you...strangling is definitely not a kink you spring on someone in the spur of the moment, lol.  I wouldn't be into it even if we had discussed it beforehand, either, but the way he went about it, I legit thought I was about to be murdered. -_-

I honestly am not sure what people find so hot about the whole erotic asphyxiation thing (aside from the physiological fact that by hindering bloodflow to your brain, more is available in certain other erogenous zones, and the loss of oxygen to your brain can make you giddy and leave you feeling "high")...to me there is nothing erotic about it, but I don't know, that may be partly because I'm studying forensics. Too many things can go wrong in that scenario.  Your hyoid is a VERY easy bone to break, and if your partner uses a little too much force by accident while in the heat of passion, you may end up in the ER or worse. Not to mention other than the issue of your hyoid, your larynx can be damaged pretty severely, and the number of reported deaths from this sort of thing (even when people were being careful) are too high for me to think it could be worth the risk.

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Registered: 02-21-2013
In reply to: greytie
Thu, 02-21-2013 - 7:50pm

she's she loves me to loosely choke and massage her neck with one hand

Pas we get into it she likes it rougher not to the point of beingchoked out

But to the point of discomfort if she wasn't having sex during rough sex she comes over and over while being choked

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Registered: 09-12-2011
In reply to: greytie
Tue, 01-22-2013 - 3:22pm
be careful, i would retain an attorney, what a dangerous game
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Registered: 12-28-2012
In reply to: greytie
Fri, 12-28-2012 - 1:16pm
I see alot of women are into choking now! That's something new! When a woman told me to choke her I was like wow! But once I got into it, it was off the charts.
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Registered: 08-01-2006
In reply to: greytie
Wed, 12-26-2012 - 2:03pm

Not something I'd enjoy but if you and hubby do then it's all good.



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