Confused about my fantasies

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Registered: 08-07-2008
Confused about my fantasies
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Thu, 08-07-2008 - 5:21pm

Well, I'm engaged and very very happy with my man. Just to let you know, however I seem to think about my best friend (who is a guy, and a virgin on top of it) while I'm masturbating.


I think it has to do with the fact that i haven't had sex with anyone but my man and i am curious about what it would be like to have sex with a virgin... Because my guy wasn't one.


I love my guy so very much and it makes me feel bad when i start thinking of my best friend in a sexual manor, even tho I would never act on my fantasies about him.... it just makes me feel bad...


Also my guy knows about me kinda liking my friend.... but seriously its only because of the fact that he is my best friend and i can talk to him about any thing and like i said.... the virgin fantasy is like major....


Basically, i don't know what to do.... I know my friend likes me in that way, but does not act on it because he knows i love my guy..... and I just am not thinking its helping us stay friends.....


If you know what I mean...


My guy says to just stop talking to my friend so much and it will fix the prob... so i did and it worked until i saw him like 2 months later.... the fantasies started all over again....


Maybe i should just help him get laid.... then maybe he would not have such an appeal to me....


I just have no idea what to do...I really like him as a friend, he has been there for me and it's rude to just ignore him.....


What should i do.....

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 7:31pm
I have never had sex with a man who was a virgin and I really dont think I'd want to.
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Registered: 08-07-2008
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 7:43pm

yes i know... i would never think of cheating on my bf..... its just.... im not sure why i think about my friend kinda randomly or how to still be friends with the other guy because he does like me.... but i just want to be friends with him..... its just....


idk


what should i do


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Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 08-08-2008 - 8:36am

It's a fantasy. Leave it there in your mind.



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Registered: 05-24-2008
Fri, 08-08-2008 - 1:07pm
I cant tell you what to do - only you can come to that conclusion.
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Registered: 01-19-2006
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 5:43am
I agree with BL, keep it as a fantasy. It could very well lose you your BF AND your friend. Not only that, the fantasy value of it would disappear. Put the fantasy in its place, that is why they are fantasies and often kept to one's self.

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Registered: 08-03-2008
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 10:21pm

How do you know when to keep a fantasy a fantasy and when to make it a reality? My SO told me about a fantasy that he wants for his fifith bday, which is still a couple of years off. When i try to get my mind around it and think that i may be able to do it he says "its just a fantasy" Now I dont know if hes saying that because I am not 100% comfortable w it yet and he respects that or if he really just wants to keep it a fantasy.

                 

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 10:32pm

It all depends. What is the fantasy?


I love the siggy. I may have to steal it for future use!

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Registered: 08-03-2008
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 10:52pm

Oh,