crush

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Registered: 08-28-2013
crush
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Wed, 08-28-2013 - 7:49pm

I've been married for 10 years.  I have had a HUGE crush on my husband's cousin.  I cannot stop thinking about him.  He came to visit recently and he kept on asking for a hug.  I'm sure he has heard that I have a crush on him.  So maybe he was doing it to be nice.  He is such a gentleman that I know he wouldn't make a move on me out of respect for my husband. Although...It did not stop him from flirting or hugging me. My husband knows about my crush and did notice that his cousin hugged me several times. 

I recently saw him on facebook.  Do you think it's wrong to ask for a friend request?  I don't want to seem out of line.  I know my husband is ok with the request. 

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Registered: 10-25-2013
In reply to: nm505girl
Mon, 10-28-2013 - 10:34pm

I can relate. I feel the same way about a good friend of my wife. I missed my chance with her years ago and even though I know it would be wrong I won't miss another chance if I get it. My feelings for her are so strong and I want her so bad. But, probably never happen. 

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Registered: 08-29-2013
In reply to: nm505girl
Thu, 08-29-2013 - 5:22pm

Be careful that you don't take things to far. Right now your looking for a friend on facebook. I think what you want is something that is missing between you and your husband. Things can happen so fast between men and women who find themselves looking for close friendship with each other. I think you know you  want to find yourdelf in his arms. You want to feel his body next to yours and just let things go where thay may. Just remember one thing. If the shoe was on the other foot and it was your husband. How would you feel about? Let me know how things workout for you.