Determining what to share

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Determining what to share
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Thu, 06-09-2011 - 3:39am

I've become aware that some fantasies translate better into "real world" sex play than others. Also there are also some fantasies that should stay private and not be shared with one's partner. my gf has the gift of knowing which of her fantasies should be kept to herself, which are likely to be successful and which should just remain fantasies. I'm new to the concept of sharing what's going on in my head that way so I dont always get it right. as a matter of fact the first time i tried to bring a fantasy i'd had into our sex life it was a disaster. my question is, how do you determine if a fantasy is likely to translate well into erotic role play or if it should just stay as fantasy. also how do people decide if something is appropriate to share with their partners or if they should keep it private?

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Fri, 06-10-2011 - 1:52pm
You are killing me here ;) I may need to write that as a story just so I am not fantasizing about it so hard. wow!
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Fri, 06-10-2011 - 4:35pm
LOL well maybe you can convince your wife to go for it since you've got all this studly mojo going ;)
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Fri, 06-10-2011 - 5:22pm
I lately failed at just asking to be spanked.. so.. ITs a long way to go. but oh my goodness.. If I could relive someone elses experiences somehow, yours would be so very high :)

I'm not sure her interest in me has much to do with my studliness ;) Seeing as how I'd need to figure out what part of me is studly ;)
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Fri, 06-10-2011 - 6:09pm

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Fri, 06-10-2011 - 7:52pm
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Sat, 06-11-2011 - 4:06am

Sure you can, just be careful and abide by the TOS. Certain words cannot be used, or else the story will get deleted.

okay i'll have to go look those up. don't want to offend the powers that be. :smileyhappy:

Wow, dark hair and blue eyes!!! Nice. You know, lots of women like the "rough" look of a man that hasn't shaved. Stubble is oh so nice.

seriously? that suprises me because my gf always seemed to hate my stubble before we became involved. of course that may be because I'd grab her and rub my face all over her face. the shrieks and

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Sat, 06-11-2011 - 6:54pm
You can most certainly post your real life experiences under the "steamy stories" board, and whether or not its your real life story, its MY fantasy, so I think you'd get a pass anyways.

And generally, you'd bring enough truth to it that you don't have to be a good writer to write a good story. I know some of your longer emails have had enough detail in them to pass as stories for me :)

And yeah, I wish I knew what part of me was desirable... I might even develop a little ego ;)
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Sat, 06-11-2011 - 9:04pm

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Sun, 06-12-2011 - 5:01pm
A problem I keep running into is misunderstanding... in talking to someone, exploring what they've done and what they're into, asking a question like "have you been with other women?" is TOO OFTEN taken as "I want you to be with a woman".

The way I see it, that can be extremely hot - if she's eager to do it - and horrible if she's not into it. I never want a partner to feel pressured into something she does not want... but I don't want her to feel she's missing something she wants but won't ask for. (aside from one woman who puled my fingers out of her and put them straight into her mouth, no woman has volunteered to me any interest in women..)

I ask because I want to know - so I can respect - where she IS on that issue, it's not the same as making a demand for that.
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Mon, 06-13-2011 - 9:36am

lol.... Look in the mirror next time you have sex and see what your hair looks like. It's kinda messy.



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