Determining what to share

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Registered: 11-30-2010
Determining what to share
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Thu, 06-09-2011 - 3:39am

I've become aware that some fantasies translate better into "real world" sex play than others. Also there are also some fantasies that should stay private and not be shared with one's partner. my gf has the gift of knowing which of her fantasies should be kept to herself, which are likely to be successful and which should just remain fantasies. I'm new to the concept of sharing what's going on in my head that way so I dont always get it right. as a matter of fact the first time i tried to bring a fantasy i'd had into our sex life it was a disaster. my question is, how do you determine if a fantasy is likely to translate well into erotic role play or if it should just stay as fantasy. also how do people decide if something is appropriate to share with their partners or if they should keep it private?

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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 11:22am

Really not an insanely long ramble.......

The spike in libido that sometimes happens for women in their 40's is a reality.

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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 11:37am

We are similiarly nerdy then :smileywink: I once wrote a humorous erotic D&D story about a dwarven warrior and an elf mage and what mistakes can happen exporing a dark castle when severe differences in height are involved :smileyhappy:

ROFLMAO

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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 11:41am
I'm navigating a few things, including my inability to communicate as well verbally as I do here.. but since the "Kaboom" she has been open to things that she has never been open to before.. asked for things that she hasnt' done before and that I would have begged her to allow me to do for her before.

I've said it before, buy my credo seems to be "if its worth doing, its worth doing the hard way" and, that includes spouses. I like the challenge, and we will figure this out :) Just need to come up with more ways to get an empty house for a few hours at a time ;)

And I love erotic analogies. Its good when folks think out of the box ;)
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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 1:18pm
It is a funny story.. I'll see if I can recreate at some point.. I have always been into role playing, and i'm aware of that book. I just can't imagine how much fun that cold be ;) Especially with the right group.. I do wish I had gotten the missus into the role playing games some.. might help with getting her to role play with just me ;)

And the problem is, with an elementary aged child, we dont' have lots of truelly alone time.. But that just normal life complications, and we are working around that. But its also just relearning how to be a couple and not roommates, and to rediscover how all this sex stuff works with each other, and such.

I did have one date, before I met my wife, with another gal in which college student me had the house to himself (living at home) and raided Dad's porn stash for the "date". since I was familiar with the material and showing her my favorite things (which she liked) it was probably the only time I was naughty and talkative and someone else was speechless..

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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 2:43pm

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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 2:51pm

LMAO... Exactly!

Okay I get it lol. so i'll go with the sex hair when i go see her. she took a picture of my butt over memorial day weekend and sent it to me with a message saying she misses my levi 501s and i need tighter jeans. i never noticed how loose my jeans got after i bought my bowflex last year

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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 2:52pm

I've said it before, buy my credo seems to be "if its worth doing, its worth doing the hard way" and, that includes spouses. I like the challenge, and we will figure this out :smileyhappy: Just need to come up with more ways to get an empty house for a few hours at a time :smileywink:

LOL go get her tiger :smileywink:

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Registered: 10-15-2006
Tue, 06-14-2011 - 2:58pm
QuixoticMale wrote:
You are killing me here ;) I may need to write that as a story just so I am not fantasizing about it so hard. wow!

Ahem....

WRITE the story!

Mrs P

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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 3:14pm
Will you critique my work? :) As long as I get a little feedback, I will put down what has been coarsing through my brain and ruining my concentration as of late ;)
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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 3:33pm
I have, from time to time, served as both sounding board and "editor" to several writers here during the period they were writing and before they posted. I'm always happy to make suggestions and offer help when invited.

I'd be happy to take a look either before you posted or afterward.
;)

Mrs P

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