Does Too Much Fantasizing = Immaturity?

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Does Too Much Fantasizing = Immaturity?
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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 12:58am

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 7:36am

Hi there, and welcome to the boards. You have what Freud and Jung would call a fantasy prone personality. It's cool though, I am the same way. It basically means that you have the type of control over your own mind that you can transport yourself into rather elaborate fantasies where every detail, color and action are crystal clear and you probably do it more than most folks. Most people like this fantasise all the time just like you have stated you do. Theres absolutly nothing wrong with it and it doesn't make you immature. It's actually quite a gift. Many people with fantasy prone personalities (myself included)

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 7:36am

Hi and welcome bar. It's so nice to see you over here. Stay, jump in anytime and have fun. The people here are really great, as you've probably already figured out.


Me, personally, I don't think there is anything wrong with fantasizing. I think that most of us that don't have much, if any, of a sex life at home tend to do this a lot. You are not an airhead. Don't ever let me hear you say that again!


I'm sorry your wife responded that way. Has she always been like this? Does she have any medical conditions?

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 9:06am

I do have to admit the reaction you described from your wife would be what I would expect from my wife. She can have flashes or eroticism. But when she is surprised with something sexual. she automatically puts the breaks on. She doesn't move quickly when it comes to trying new things sexually. but I find if I bring things up in a non-pressure way she will be more accepting. but yes. if I suggested what you suggested I can pretty much gaurentee that she would have reacted identically as your wife did. but it's also possible that I could suggest that one day, get that kind of negative reaction, then days, weeks, or months down the road she will offer to do that or something similar. It works for her if she is given time to think it over and work it out in her mind.


As for fantasizing. I definitely don't think it's immature at all. In fact I think fantasizing is a sign of sexual maturity, and creativity. I am very much a fantasizer. and yes it's been cultivated since I was in my early teens.






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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 10:27am

Thank you,..your explanation of the fantasy prone personality is right on the money.

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 10:31am

Yup,..my wife just won't try too much of anything new.

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 10:37am

Excellent..glad I could make you feel better about it! It really is a wonderful thing to be able to do. I've been that way since I was a child and delved into studying psychology in my teens. Reading Jung and Freud's take on such things made me like like I wasn't a freak lol.


As for Hell's Kitchen..I gotta back Petrozza...he's from my town! I would love to see him win. Up until she got voted off, I thought Corey might take it and I kinda thought she deserved to stay more than Cristina after how they did at service in

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 11:00am

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 11:09am
I can understand how she feels..I had ovarian polycystic disorder on top of endometriosis...I finally had to have a hysterectomy last january after 4 other surgeries which zapped my sex drive...and 27 if aweful young to have all your reproductive organs ripped out..but it's the best decision I ever made and my libido skyrocketed

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All growth is a leap in the dark, a spontaneous unpremeditated act without benefit of experience ~Henry Miller

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 11:13am

is if she has the RIGHT AMOUNT of liqour in her.





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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 11:15am

If you put yourself down one more time, I'm going to have to hit you. Stop that. You're not an idiot, or a bad person. You're trying to have some sort of a sexual relationship with your wife. I do know how hard it is to discuss things with spouses like that. You just get to a point where you think, why do I bother.


People, especially a spouse, shouldn't make you feel like that. I don't think they realize what it does to you mentally when they do.

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