Does Too Much Fantasizing = Immaturity?

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Registered: 05-24-2007
Does Too Much Fantasizing = Immaturity?
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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 12:58am

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 2:29pm

I know I got into this discussion way late, but I understand about your wife's medical problems causing her low libido. I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism in March and I went from a high libido woman to a no low libido woman (I also have three other chronic illnesses, so they all put a major damper on O/our sex life). However, I am under a doctor's care and am working hard at getting my libido back. I also have the most patient Master in the world. I know that it has been very difficult for Him to deal with this, because He is such a HL person Himself.


As for fantasizing, I don't think that you can fantasize too much. I'm a writer and I live through my characters (or they live through me; sometimes I can't tell the difference). I've always had an active fantasy life, ever since I was a child. Master writes stories with me and Wwe often discuss O/our characters as though they were real people. However, whenever I haven't had a good real life, it has not caused me to fantasize more. A bad sex life does not cause me to fantasize more. A bad sex life or a bad life in general causes me to shut down completely, to the point of where I withdraw from everyone and everything and become emotionally numb. Everything then is in shades of grey or black and I don't see colors or have fantasies. Depression and sadness really do a number on me. I know that some writers do their

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 6:16pm
I dont think that the act of fantasizing is what she could have thought was immature.
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Registered: 10-15-2006
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 9:13pm

Hi Bar...I do not think we have met...


I am Mrs P


Fantasies are the product of a well developed thought process. While many immature people may fantasize, the indulgence into fantasy is not an indication of immaturity.


It's a way to explore, a safe form of self expression. For some Fantasy is a saving grace, a way to "live out" desire. It is a way to test ones mental limits, a way to go beyond comfort zones.


It's also quite enjoyable...


Indeed.













Mrs P

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Registered: 05-24-2007
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 12:53am

Yes, the conditions themself may be but her libido isn't. Have you mentioned this to her doctor?


Sorry it's so late,..I've been out working.

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Registered: 05-24-2007
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 12:55am

I admire you for working hard to get your libido back!

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Registered: 05-24-2007
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 1:01am

.........I thought about that too.

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Registered: 05-24-2007
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 1:03am
Yes it is very much enjoyable.
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Registered: 09-27-2005
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 11:09am

Hello and welcome bar. Trust me, no insult is taken on my part!


I will say that I have a very very active imagination. I am


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Registered: 01-14-2007
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 11:45am
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 3:15pm

I can understand your frustration. Do you have kids?