Is there a difference, between Loving someone, and being In love with someone?
Well Bar....to answer your question I think there is a great deal of difference between loving someone and being in love.
I have loved a number people in my lifetime yet have only been "in love" just a few times. I realize that in this particular instance we are talking about love between partners and not family, children and other possible loves.
To me being in love means having a very strong and deeply rooted connection that just loving a person does not include. Being in love is feeling a part of that other person and reciprocally their being part of you. It's a shared existence of sorts, a visceral connection deeper than a romance, fling or affair. It's real, every aspect is based in reality. If I were to love a person they would not necessarily know me on all levels, but were I to be in love there is nothing about me that I would withhold. There is a giving over of ones self involved, and an accepting of the other that completes the circle.
Yikes -- that describes my wife to a tee as well. Whenever we go out with other couples or alone, I know I can write off getting lucky. Never happens. It makes me reluctant to even suggest going out!
I fantasize, she lives in the real world and doesn't fantasize. I'm okay with that as long as the sex part is there. Unfortunately, a lot of the time it isn't -- which puts my fantasizing in overdrive.
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Is there a difference, between Loving someone, and being In love with someone?
Well Bar....to answer your question I think there is a great deal of difference between loving someone and being in love.
I have loved a number people in my lifetime yet have only been "in love" just a few times. I realize that in this particular instance we are talking about love between partners and not family, children and other possible loves.
To me being in love means having a very strong and deeply rooted connection that just loving a person does not include. Being in love is feeling a part of that other person and reciprocally their being part of you. It's a shared existence of sorts, a visceral connection deeper than a romance, fling or affair. It's real, every aspect is based in reality. If I were to love a person they would not necessarily know me on all levels, but were I to be in love there is nothing about me that I would withhold. There is a giving over of ones self involved, and an accepting of the other that completes the circle.
Mrs P
Yikes -- that describes my wife to a tee as well. Whenever we go out with other couples or alone, I know I can write off getting lucky. Never happens. It makes me reluctant to even suggest going out!
I fantasize, she lives in the real world and doesn't fantasize. I'm okay with that as long as the sex part is there. Unfortunately, a lot of the time it isn't -- which puts my fantasizing in overdrive.
Is there a difference, between Loving someone, and being In love with someone?
Yes. You can love a dog, or a car or your parent and you can love your SO (hopefully).
Hi bar,
I noticed in your first post that you popped over here from the ML board.
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