DW fantasy confessing

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DW fantasy confessing
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Tue, 08-14-2012 - 12:28pm
How do I get my DW to not hold back on telling what her true fantazies are. For instance, I relly want to see her get picked up by another man at a bar and me being around to witness it but never actually letting the thing go past sexual intercourse. Just a little touching here and there but that's all. I have a hard time admitting this to her and chances are she holds back the same way I do. How do I get her to admit to me her true fantasies?
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Registered: 11-04-2012
Fri, 07-12-2013 - 10:10pm

And how would she feel if nobody approached her at the bar? What if no other man wanted to talk to her or offered to buy her a drink?  This has always been my fear (and my experience).  It wouldn't be much fun if nobody else wanted her.

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Sun, 08-19-2012 - 5:08pm

You need to show trust in order to get trust.  By holding back yourself you are creating an atmosphere in which she can't feel totally free to open up to you.  Take a giant leap of faith and open up to her 100%, in time, she'll develop the same openness.  Good luck, sex and relationships are best when we can be totally open with our partner.  And we all deserve that!

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Sun, 08-19-2012 - 5:05pm

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Do not feel alone, many of us men have the same fantasy. I have the same one with my wife, I have been slowly working her up to it. Slowly introduce her to this.

When you are out, at a bar, club, restaurant,  ask her about other men,  someone who walks by your table.Try an innocent comment about something he is wearing? See how she comments. If the guy has a hot looking date, try saying something like this. "Wow, she is way to pretty for him" Listen to what she says, if her response is positive, then ask her. "Do you find him attractive, would you go out with him? Would you dance with him if he asked? Etc. Work it. Find out what kind of men she is attractive to. Guys like you, tall, short, blond, bluff, portly, etc. Try talking about other men in the room. Get the to think, imagine these other men.  

If you go out to bar and clubs, encourage her to dress in more club wear, wear nice heels, Sit at the bar together, get her to sit with her back to the bar, her body facing the crowd, facing the dance floor, the crowd. This way men will see her, men will subtlety flirt with her, eyes, smiles, nods.  

Try dropping her off at the front door of a club, Tell her to get a spot at the bar. Go park the car, but take a few long moments to do it. Call, or text and to let her know you ran into an old friend in the parking lot, or you gut a phone call from work. Take your time getting to the baro or club.  This will give time for a man to walk up to her and strike up a conversation, maybe you can watch from afar and see how she handles herself. If she looks like she is enjoying it, watch and enjoy. If she looks to be in distress walk up to her and rescue her.

After you have rejoined her, ask her how she felt about that guy talking with her? Like, hate, turned on?

Try searching  for some topics online about role playing "Pickup at a bar"   There is a website called Liteerotica.com that has some stories about men watching their wives getting picked up at a bar. 
 

This may take weeks or months to finally happen. Or it may never happen.  Also try going out for drinks, after she has had a few  drinks. Talk to her, tell her you have this fantasies what she says.  

I wish you the best

Male65401


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Wed, 08-15-2012 - 10:45am
Maybe she doesn't have any....