Fantasy about my wife

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Fantasy about my wife
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Thu, 04-07-2011 - 3:11pm

This may have been brought up before so I apologize but I am new here so please forgive me. I have a fantasy that has grown over the year's and become quite complex. I have this fantasy that involves my wife and another man. I come home and catch them having sex...hot passionate sex. Here is the catch, it can't be just any man. There are qualifications....he must be my age or older, my size or smaller, physically much stronger and more muscular and athletic, more skillful, and more endowed. I am trying to figure out just why all of the requirements. I think it must have something to do with being out of control and being totally helpless but I am not sure. I am not bi-sexual or attracted to the opposite sex in any way.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Thu, 04-07-2011 - 3:58pm

Hi and welcome.

Well, I would say about 99% of men have this fantasy where they'd love to watch the SO with another man, preferably one with a larger cock. A few questions, have you talked to your wife about this fantasy? Is it reallt something, deep down, that you want to do? Do you think she would want to?



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Thu, 04-07-2011 - 4:12pm

Thanks......yes we have discussed the fantasy often and she does not have any problem talking about it and even talking about it during sex. When she does talk to me about it during sex it really turns me on. She seems to be turned on as well.

I am a ways away from actually discussing with her really doing this. I brought it up one time and the conversation just fizzled.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Thu, 04-07-2011 - 4:23pm

I beleive a lot of men have mentioned that for them it really is just a fantasy, and not something that they want to really happen. A lot could happen and it could backfire.

At least the two of you are able to talk about it. Have you ever tried incorporating a toy while making love/having sex?



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Thu, 04-07-2011 - 4:43pm

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Thu, 04-07-2011 - 4:54pm

My boyfriend, like you, enjoys this fantasy except that he doesn't mind if the man with me is taller and younger than he is (he's in his sixties, I'm in my mid-forties), and despite his asseverations to the contrary, I believe he has quite a feminine side (which I really enjoy) and is unafraid to show affection for other men--without for all that showing anything for them that is outright gay or bisexual. He does enjoy seeing men with outstanding figures, good looks, and "provocative-looking tools," though he would not dream of having sex with them. On the other hand, voyeuristically watching a man having sex with me is rather a homosexual trait, wouldn't you say?

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Thu, 04-07-2011 - 5:19pm
Wow, you really got me thinking. I hear you and I have thought about that but maybe not as much as I should. Yes everything about the male figure is superior to me........tools, muscles/prowess, skill. The age thing I will have to think about more. Part of my fantasy involves me being over powered and rendered helpless to do anything to stop it or knowing that I would be overpowered if I tried.....almost like taking me totally out of control. I will say I think I might get the same turn on were it a strong athletic woman who did this to me and pleasured my wife....go figure
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Thu, 04-07-2011 - 8:58pm

Hi, Bender.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 04-08-2011 - 8:27am

Hi Tom. It's good to see you.



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Registered: 04-04-2011
Fri, 04-08-2011 - 9:55am

I have always had the fantasy of being the "other guy".

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Registered: 11-09-2006
Fri, 04-08-2011 - 10:13am

My older boyfriend (actually I have more than one, but the older man is the closest to my intellect and heart) would not enjoy being "rendered powerless." No bondage for him. Your wish to feel powerless may well a wish to deny your stinging conscience while enjoying your sexual side at the same time. But such fantasies are common, too, as we all know very well. My boyfriend enjoys, like you, thinking of me with handsome well-endowed younger athletic men. I'm afraid that my boyfriend has always suffered from an inferiority complex in these bedroom matters. He's never been athletic, a casanova, or particularly good-looking, but on the other hand he has proved almost incapable of jealousy and envy of others. Knowing by experience that he actually desires these sexual experiences with other people and that they come without the horrors of emotional upsets, I enjoy them, too. I mentioned his "feminine" side and I enjoy it--my ex-husband had no feminine side and the result was a long long disaster.

"An athletic woman." My boyfriend and others, too,

Cunégonde

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