Fantasy: Its all about the size

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Registered: 05-13-2008
Fantasy: Its all about the size
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Mon, 09-22-2008 - 9:04am
My fantasy revolves around another man giving me wife pleasure. I'm a man of below average size (5"), and I know my wife has had and enjoyed larger. Of course i'm not talking crazy big....just bigger. like a good thick 7-9. They say size doesn't matter...but almost every girl i have the discussion with.....once you break through their knee jerk reaction to say it doesn't matter.....they all end up saying that bigger is usually better. what do you guys think?
I'd love to watch my wife enjoy another man. Hear her noises and see her face. Watch her reactions:)....
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Registered: 05-11-2007
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 3:37pm

Having had every size from foot-long (that didn't work AT ALL) to 3" (that didn't work very well) I have found that the best size for me was about average which is 5-7".

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Registered: 09-18-2008
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 3:46pm

Well I have a really dirty mind!

I too am shy, and sometimes am still shy with him, even with all that we've shared and the kinky stuff we've done!! I'm working on that. I understand her shyness, but I'm worried about the disinterested part. Explore why.

I'm so glad you're not pushing her, that will make her fight you more, and maybe get her angry.

My ideas? Someone here, (nhgal2006), had the idea of leaving this or any of the boards open for her to discover. I think that's a great idea. The more people she sees that are actually thinking the same way will make it more acceptable to her. lots of people don't like to do things they think are different. It's hard too to share ideas. There is no way I could share any of my ideas, wants and desires with anyone know. I never thought that there were people who thought the way I do. I'm really happy I stumbled onto these message boards.

Maybe she'll feel the same way!

bcvcb
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Registered: 05-13-2008
Wed, 09-24-2008 - 3:54pm
yeah i think it is a hard thing for alot of people to get their minds around. Your friend would make me nervous because you said he gets very jealous. I think he would need to really examine if its a fantasy and thats it or if he can handle the real deal. I'm very confident i could handle the real deal, but I still lean towards just keeping it fantasy. (Not that I have much choice in the matter)
He's lucky to have someone open minded to at least explore it with!
For me, being the weirdo i am:), I enjoy the jealous feeling it provokes...the feeling of inadequacy. I rember broaching this with my ex girlfriend and she too couldn't get her mind around it. But after alot of talking she actually got into it. Now she is married as well so it wasn't like she was with other men, but she enjoys poking fun at my size......her man is 9.....so she loves to brag to me about that......and its alot of fun. She likes the power it gives her over me....and i'm a bit better looking than him:)...so i think she enjoys playing with me for that as well. but its all fun and never beyond IM chats.
but heck if you guys live near PA...i can help!...lol
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Registered: 09-18-2008
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 10:46am

I think what's happening with him is that he gets all caught up in the idea. A fantasy can be very powerful stuff. At times you really think you want it. We really have fun with our fantasies together, and I think we will keep it that way. Thanks for your offer, but I'll have to pass. I live too far (Montreal) to travel to!! LOL

Do you guys read or speak french? There's this great fantasy site called Jalf.com (Jouer avec le fantasm, Playing with fantasies ). If you're a member you can browse profiles, just like a dating site, but there's much more. Users often post naked pictures and they give you a whole list of their desires(fantasies)everything under the sun practically; so you can pick and choose who to chat with. You can go as far as you want with it from keeping it strictly virtual to actually meeting up. They have people from all over the world; but I'm not sure if they have a chapter in the US. No matter, virtual works worldwide!

You might have fun with your wife on this site. She can pick and choose and fantasize about any man privates as much as you both want. Would that work? You really don't need french to look at pictures




Edited 9/27/2008 8:33 pm ET by janelovestarzan
bcvcb
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Registered: 05-13-2008
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 11:03am
oh you speak french as well??...thats sexy in it own right:) sadly no I don't speak french. There is a site called chatropolis.com that i enjoy. Its basically a chatroom site that has different rooms based on different topics. I have a lot of fun on there. there are no profiles, but people post pics and chat and have fun....who knows maybe we can chat online sometime!
Yeah fantasies are very powerful. It hard to sometimes to hold off when you get really reved up. And sometimes i get carried away, like asking her to tell me about sex with her ex....whoops!....but hey..she told me he was big...whats a boy to do!
Thanks for your help!....I should have her chat with you:)....i bet you could get her to open up about things...
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Registered: 07-03-2006
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 5:00pm
I can not believe how many men are now coming forward about this fantasy.

 


 


 


 


 

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Registered: 09-18-2008
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 7:12am

Yes I do speak french..with an English accent, and I've been told by my French speaking male friends that they like it a lot?! Go figure. Anyway, my point is I am English and I did get some responses from English speaking men and English speaking french men. I just said right up that I was anglo, so this site isn't out of the question for you guys. We are very bilingual up here! Thanks for the info on your chatroom. I'll have to check it out.

Well, if she wants to talk, I'd be more than happy to talk to her; hey maybe I could learn a thing or two from her!

You're welcome and thanks again for your insight; it helped me see things from "his" point of view.

bcvcb
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Registered: 09-18-2008
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 8:48am

Hi,

I was just reading over the posts here and you've said that you've been asking for 2 years? I don't think she'll get into it if she hasn't by now. I understand the shyness, because I'm shy too but, I think that way and it's something I'd want to try, I want to try lots of things, but my shyness stops me, so I'm the type of person that would benefit from encouragement. However, if I was disinterested, like you say she is, there's no way in a million years you could convince me to do something if I felt that way. So two things might happen, she'll begin to resent this fantasy or do it but do it and hate everything about it.

Now I don't mean to imply you are pushing her too much, it seems the opposite. Just sometimes it helps to see another persons point of view

Sorry if I repeated myself!! lol

bcvcb
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Registered: 05-13-2008
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 8:58am
Oh no I understand where you are coming from. Its not a complete disinterest....its kind of haphazard. She will be into it one day, and not into it another. I try not to press, i bring it up from time to time. Usually it is in joking manner or something. Ilke we were talking about her being pregnant (she's not)...but we haven't been real active...so I said well...if you are pregnant then we need to talk...cuz its not mine. And she laughed, and then i said.....well if you are prego I hope you at least video taped it to make it worthwhile!....
She loves to make size jokes all the time. Any time something can be construed into a size joke she'll do it.
My focus has been more on desensitizing her to frank talk about sex in general....and also to desensitize her to my fantasy. She is only 33......i think perhaps as time goes on she will open a bit?....do you think as women get older they open up?.....alot of the women i have spoke with about this fantasy and are into the idea or at least the fantasy of it....are all older in their 40's and 50's.
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Registered: 09-18-2008
Fri, 09-26-2008 - 10:26am

I have to laugh, but in a good way. About the desensitizing thing, my man will ask me to say things as a mantra so I'm not so shy saying...(fill in the blank)! For me I don't want to say the wrong thing; what I might find sexy to say, he may not, so I hold back.

As for women opening up when they get older, I can only speak for myself. I've always been this open wild girl on the inside so being 43(as of yesterday!! lol) had nothing to do with it. However, that being said age may play some part. For me, because I want to do so much and I feel that I've lost so much time being shy that I don't want to waste anymore time; I want to do things while my body still looks good, and before I am too old to do it.

I too go in and out of wanting or thinking about certain fantasies, so we don't always match up. He seems to always have the same 2 fantasies, both involving other men, and sometimes I just want to get kinky with just him. He really underestimates what he does for me. He always wants more and more for me. I can't see it getting any better. But that's a whole other post!

I'm hoping I'll be more verbal this weekend. I've never been as verbal as we'd both like so maybe this is why he's still stuck on the same fantasy.

Wish me luck!!

bcvcb