FFM

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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 8:29am
Since my divorce, I've been doing all those sexual things I had to suppress for years during my marriage, things I'd discovered in adolescence or at college. Sexually, I was such a sad case while married. My husband didn't cooperate with me in anything, didn't share my sexual goals, and I became a nervous wreck. I always liked the idea of a threesome but had no idea how well it could work out when you find people who are suitable in their desires. One of my girlfriends loves to watch. She would much rather watch than participate. I'm not like that at all. I need to have some attention, even the spotlight. As for boyfriend, he is quite able "to perform," since he has great trouble coming. Most times he just doesn't. Plus, he's "big." Visually, it's a real turn on and stimulates my imagination (and his girlfriend's, too). I get so aroused seeing my friend wildly excited while I'm showing off with her boyfriend during a long bout of intercourse; the only thing is I consider myself "the weak one" because I would be unable to share a man like she does. It's a troublesome thought. I try to think that's just how people are, but still, I can't get over the idea that it's weak of me not to be able to share. I've always thought this. How should I manage this feeling?
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Registered: 08-01-2006
In reply to: sieglinde_cunegonde
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 8:34am

I don't think it's weak of you at all. Some people can share with no problems and others can't.


So, you share your gf's bf? How do you feel about him? Are you jealous of her with him? Technically you are sharing.

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In reply to: sieglinde_cunegonde
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 8:57am

In no way do I think you are 'weak' just because you don't want to share your man (when he is actually yours).

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In reply to: sieglinde_cunegonde
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 9:06am
What N says is technically true.
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In reply to: sieglinde_cunegonde
Fri, 08-29-2008 - 11:04pm
How do I feel about him? Just a friend but he's too very boyish. I just like him and enjoy his staying "power", but his personality is certainly not what I'm going to fall in love with. I don't know why he can't come. If I were her, I'd be very frustrated by that, but since it doesn't matter to me, I just let myself thoroughly "go" and have screaming orgasms like never in my life I had while I was married (my husband came in under two minutes always, with sometimes a quick squeak after he just entered). I must say, a "long laster" allows me to really behave (i.e., dominant and showing off for them and playing with his really long thing) in ways I have wanted to do for many years and still end all the built-up excitement with a good screw.
Cunégonde
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In reply to: sieglinde_cunegonde
Fri, 08-29-2008 - 11:21pm
Thank you for helping me think through this. To answer your question, I don't get jealous at all of him having sex with her, my friend. In fact, I myself love to see her "get it good." I don't think I'm attached to him except as a friend whom I like and enjoy. I never daydream of him or catch myself dreaming about him. Am I crazy? I enjoy imagining her doing things!
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In reply to: sieglinde_cunegonde
Sat, 08-30-2008 - 4:39pm

Sounds like you are all having a good time...very jealous

Do you and her interact or is it just him with the women?

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In reply to: sieglinde_cunegonde
Sun, 08-31-2008 - 1:53pm
With him present, it's usually her watching me and him; that is her usual choice. She and I of course do things which get me ready for him. I never kiss him on the lips only her. She, like me, is divorced. I've enjoyed "women threesomes" with her and her friend which were awesome, and once with her and a man friend of mine. After my divorce, I met her. I was going out with her ex- and met her and really liked her (much more than I did her macho guy husband whom I dropped soon after.). She helped me so very much to adjust to my divorce and to have the courage to do things I'd never have done.
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In reply to: sieglinde_cunegonde
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 8:49am

He may not always be unable to ejaculate.

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In reply to: sieglinde_cunegonde
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 11:03am
No, he has great trouble coming with her alone, too, but if she massages his prostate, then he does come. It's impossible for her to reach his prostate if they're doing doggie style; whereas my absolute favorite position is straight missionary vanilla with my legs pulled back all the way, which would allow me to do that for him, but I will never do that for him using my fingers (that's her job entirely), but I've used a strap on with him and he eventually came and very definitely loved it.
Cunégonde
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In reply to: sieglinde_cunegonde
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 6:23pm
Use a probe to massage his prostate if fingering it isn't your thing.

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