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Hard questions, try to give imput
| Wed, 05-14-2008 - 5:02pm |
Try if you can to answer this question or maybe just give some ideas.
Is there anything you can think of that helped you be more sexually open?
How were you able to take the fantasies from you mind and bring them into the bedroom? If not the whole fantasy maybe just parts of it?
Do you believe you SO had anything to do with you being able to be sexually open?
If you have a HL and you mate has LL how do you deal with it? If you are not having sex as often as you like do you feel your relationship suffers?
I know these are hard and yes I will answer but I just need a bit more time.


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Is there anything you can think of that helped you be more sexually open?
For me it was getting on this board that allowed me to open up. I met a few people here who helped me a great deal to let my inner self out and experience a side of me I didnt know was there. They made me feel comfortable, confident, and were there to cheer me on.
How were you able to take the fantasies from you mind and bring them into the bedroom? If not the whole fantasy maybe just parts of it?
Once I got over being afraid, I felt that what I wanted to do would be received quite well. Now some of what I would like wont ever come to fruition, but thats ok, I am happy with where I am right now
Do you believe you SO had anything to do with you being able to be sexually open?
He played a big part as well, My ex was very vanilla on so many levels, and with no confidence in myself, when I went into my currently relationship I had to start all over, and he helped me as well..I had a team effort, my SO, and my online friends.
If you have a HL and you mate has LL how do you deal with it? If you are not having sex as often as you like do you feel your relationship suffers?
I would like to have it every day, but as real life goes, we cant. but we have so much more the sex in our lives, we have laughter, we enjoy each others company, we love spending time together, and miss each other when we are apart. so even though we dont have sex all the time, we have so much more.
Is there anything you can think of that helped you be more sexually open? I was always so curious about sex that when I met my DH and learned I could *trust* him, sexual openness wasn't much of a problem. (My own body image was the biggest hurdle to overcome.)
How were you able to take the fantasies from you mind and bring them into the bedroom? If not the whole fantasy maybe just parts of it? All I need to do is mention it to DH. He's a master at taking what's in my head and bringing it to life!
Do you believe you SO had anything to do with you being able to be sexually open? Absolutely, the trust factor and his being totally OK with what I do or don't want to do are vital to our intimate life. I am accepted as I am, and it helps me be free with him.
If you have a HL and you mate has LL how do you deal with it? If you are not having sex as often as you like do you feel your relationship suffers? We have about the same libido, but stress affects me more, and I have a high-stress job. We get a little tense and snappy with each other if there's too much time without sex, but we've never let it go long enough that it became a real problem.
HTH!
Alpha, what a great siggy I love it! So some of the people who have replied have said that their relationship is not the best. Do you think you will stay in yours? Was your SO always like this? If yes, do you think the two of you could grow together?
So many times we as woman think a man will change. Do you think it is too much to expect as a relationship grows for a man to change sexually? I think over the years both partners should grow and try new things, am I lying to myself about this?
You hit the nail on the head. If you are confident and relaxed about yourself, sex is so much more enjoyable.
besides a few curves makes the exploration a little more interesting ;O)
Confidence is a wonderful thing in women. Especially when it comes to body image. I'll be honest and admit there are probably a few men out there that are vain enough to just care about looks on a woman, but chances are if your guy is not complaining, and you are being confident in bed, he isnt going to care about a few extra curves or a few extra pounds.
Besides most of us as we approach middle age our metabolism changes and we are going to add a few pounds whether we want it or not, so we might as well be comfortable with it.
FG
FG, I am going to ask you this because I bet everyone is getting tired of my questions he he.
Many times woman feel they can change a man (which they can't but I think it is just in our DNA to think we can)
Is it too much to think as we grow in a relationship that the sex will change and become more open over time?
Why is it sometimes sex stays the same? I hate to go threw the motions, drives me crazy, I want hot sex all the time. Am I asking too much?
"Thank you fg. That is so nice to hear. But how do you get past that?"
Not being a woman and knowing the female pscyhe, I cant give you an all encompassing answer. Truly the only person that knows the female psyche is another female. However, I can give you this one's male viewpoint.
Women have let society dictate to them...how they should look, how they should dress, how they should wear makeup, how they should act....and women generally have let society do it.
But just step back and take a look at the advertising agencies.....
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It's probably that mothering instinct that women have that make you think you can change men.... heh
To be honest, thats the way it should be....as the relationship grows it should get more open and the sex should get better. You know each other better and you know each others like and dislikes but more importanly you should be able to be more open about your fantasies and your desires to be able to explore new things.
(However I am in an ML relationship where I am the HL and DW is the LL and it has been 8 weeks since our last IC, so just to be totally honest here)
No you are not asking too much at all. For myself, if I was in a relationship with someone compatible libido wise I could probably do it every day....I don't know for sure, I havent been in that situation...but I know for sure 2-3x a week would definatly not be a problem :O)
But when you are in a loving committed relationship, it is only natural to want to have the ultimate experience and when you make love to each other, you are baring your soul as well as your bodies. Nothing is hidden, it is all exposed..
Now on the ML board, FreelanceMomma is a female LL and she can give quite eloquent explanations why women are LL, etc...and I am a HL, but to me, I cannot see how 2 people cannot enter into a loving relationship without
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