Hard questions, try to give imput

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Registered: 08-03-2003
Hard questions, try to give imput
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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 5:02pm

Try if you can to answer this question or maybe just give some ideas.


Is there anything you can think of that helped you be more sexually open?


How were you able to take the fantasies from you mind and bring them into the bedroom? If not the whole fantasy maybe just parts of it?


Do you believe you SO had anything to do with you being able to be sexually open?


If you have a HL and you mate has LL how do you deal with it? If you are not having sex as often as you like do you feel your relationship suffers?


I know these are hard and yes I will answer but I just need a bit more time.

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Registered: 04-06-2007
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:13am

Thanks for the comment about the siggy, Lori.

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Registered: 04-06-2007
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 9:04am

FG,


You've made some wonderful points in your two posts here...especially giving them from the male point of vivew...sex is so much more enjoyable when a woman is not thinking about some negative body image in the back of her head.

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Registered: 01-15-2008
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 9:14am

Alpha,


You are so right. And thats the point I am making. If woman supported each other more like on this board, and came to the realization that not every woman is going to be a size 0-5 and to accept their bodies within the limitations that each person has, everybody would benefit.


I applaud you for coming to that realization and trying to change your view, and I am sure your hubby/SO appreciates it as well.


You women have the power to change society's view of how women should act, view, and feel like and by standing up for yourself you can cause change. I dont think you have to become a feminist, but rather to become honest with yourself and accept your body as it is...instead of constantly trying to acheive "perfection"


I am not saying that you shouldnt feel feminine and not want to get prettied up when YOU want to. But only when you WANT to and not because society/your peers think you NEED to.


FG

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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 9:29am
Very well said.

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Registered: 01-15-2008
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 9:35am

Thank ye M'lady.


I just speak from my heart.

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Registered: 08-03-2006
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 10:31am

Is there anything you can think of that helped you be more sexually open? Yes, but its not a path I would really recommend. I was always very ashamed of what I wanted in bed, so I just went along with whatever DH wanted. I was brought up to believe

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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 11:03am

i admire you.

It takes alot to open up and spill it out. Just recently my dh has moved back in with me and my dd. It is a hard adjustment. He is my second dh and my last. I want to make it work but our sex life does not in the way. however the relationship suffers so much in other aspects. I dont know if i can handle too much more. Hang in there.....

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Registered: 08-03-2003
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 12:04pm
Alpha, yes I am headed towards divorce. I never believed you can change a man.
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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 12:10pm
Missy, it is so hard to be in a relaionship that is not what you want it to be. I so understand that. Finally after being married for 18 years I am plaining on divorcing hubby too much has happend. YOu mentioned your hubby recently moved back in, have things changed for the better since he has been back? From what you are saying it seems not. I split from my hubby for a year and thought things would change when he came back but they didnt'
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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 12:29pm

Hot,


Believe me, there are men out here that would love to treat you the way you or any woman deserves to be treated.


FG


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