HELP.

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Registered: 06-09-2011
HELP.
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Thu, 06-09-2011 - 2:54am

So, yesterday things were really steaming up between my boyfriend and I, and we've been together for a while now, and we're both sexually adjusted with eachother.
Right as we were about to have sex, he stops me, and asked if i could give him a rim job.
I asked why he wanted it, and he said he heard it could be enjoyable.
This worries me, does this mean my boyfriend is gay?
I've never been with a man whose wanted me to do stuff to him..there.

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Registered: 11-30-2010
In reply to: liz_0978
Thu, 06-09-2011 - 3:14am
It absolutely does not mean your boyfriend is gay. Alot of straight guys are interested in experimenting with anal play and many find it enjoyable. Sure it's kind of kinky but that's part of the appeal to some of us.
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Registered: 12-25-2006
In reply to: liz_0978
Thu, 06-09-2011 - 8:38am

Seriously, it doesn't mean he's gay ~ what about oral, does that make you think he's gay?

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Registered: 04-26-2011
In reply to: liz_0978
Thu, 06-09-2011 - 9:36am
I have to echo that it seems like quite a normal thing, if he asked to have it done, or if he asked to do it with you.

My rule of thumb isn't, what is he asking for, but who he is asking it from. He wants it done from you..

Some of us (/whistles innocently with a sly grin) would enjoy a strap on .. there.. fromtheir gf/wife but have never ever thought of a guy doing that to them.

I do agree though, that bringin it up right before isnt' the best time. That is kind of an out of the bedroom situation..
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Registered: 01-03-2007
In reply to: liz_0978
Thu, 06-09-2011 - 9:52am

I don't think you can ever have too many people in this situation say it, so I will too - it does NOT mean his is gay, or even wants to be or thinks about it.

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Registered: 10-15-2006
In reply to: liz_0978
Thu, 06-09-2011 - 11:21pm
Hi liz!

Both men and women enjoy lots of different techniques of anal play. Men also enjoy anal vibrators, butt plugs, anal beads, being inserted with a strap on, etc and aren't necessarily gay. They simply enjoy the pleasure they feel being stimulated in that area.

If your BF did enjoy sexual experiences with other men, I wouldn't consider him gay since he has a sexual relationship with you. I'd think he was bisexual if anything. Would that be a deal breaker for you?

Mrs P

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Registered: 08-01-2006
In reply to: liz_0978
Fri, 06-10-2011 - 10:14am

NO, it does not mean he's gay. He just wants to experiment. Lots of men, and women, enjoy anal play. Although, I would think that's something you should talk about beforehand, like outside the bedroom, and not when you're getting it on.



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Registered: 06-12-2011
In reply to: liz_0978
Sun, 06-12-2011 - 4:49pm
No, it doesn't mean he's gay. Personally, if I wanted to encourage a woman to rim me, I'd start the conversation by slipping my tongue "there" while licking you... I mean, her. Then I'd gage her reaction - "ewww", "oohhh", or "WOW!" - to decide how the discussion should proceed.