How far is too far?

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How far is too far?
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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 9:17am

OK..all the BDSM talk yesterday got me to thinking..dangerous prospect, I know ~wink~....however I am wondering in terms of sexual activity...how far is too far? What are your limits...how far are you willing to let things go? What are your "hard limits", as we call them, things you absolutly won't do...what do you fantasise about doing but would never actually do in real life? Just some questions...


~smile~

Lothiriel


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Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 06-20-2008 - 10:50am

Hi mwm... It's always nice when you come out of lurkdom and visit with us...

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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 11:02am

Hi nhgal,


Hope you're feeling well, first of all. Secondly, I guess I'm very guilty of living in lurkdom, as you so eloquently put it......lol.


You should be jumping on that big hog and riding today. If your weather is anything like the weather here where I'm at, it's a beautiful day for it.


I wish you good health my dear, and have a wonderful weekend.


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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 11:12am

lol.. I am well, thank you. You really should get out and about more often.


Actually we will be on the bike after work and all weekend. Bike week is coming to an end Sunday.

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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 11:15am
I completely agree with you MWM..whatever two people want to do together, so long as its consensual if fine. I got into that debate over on the "Sex & Spirituality" board...which was rather interesting...but thats a whole other story. I do have hard limits myself, akin to ones already mentioned in this thread. But I make a point not to judge others for what they may find sexy that I do not.

Lothiriel


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Registered: 03-22-2008
Fri, 06-20-2008 - 11:16am

Hey Male,


I like your ideas.

 

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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 11:28am

Good for you lothiriel. I enjoy reading your stories concerning your likes and dislikes, your approach to life that differs from some (including me....lol), but you have a very refreshing outlook on the way you like to live that seems very refreshing and honest IMO.


What bothers me

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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 12:27pm

I am glad you have enjoyed my stories and posts, it interests me though that you believe me to have an approach to life that is different from many others. I take this as a compliment, but I can't help wondering exactly what you meant by it. ~smile~ I am very set in how I want to live my life...I know what makes me happy, I refuse to confine myself to what others would deam a "normal conventional life" in favor of living the way that I see as the most productive and beneficial for myself and my family.


I completely agree with you about not criticizing something until you've tried it. I am a firm believer that people should open themselves up to new experiences, even ones that may frighten them a little bit. Otherwise how will we find new things that intrest us and new things to enjoy? I'm a never say never kind of girl. I've always been that way, I was was the first

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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 1:01pm

You're quite welcome. If you read your first paragraph you wrote, that's your answer to your question. You seem to really enjoy your life, and aren't the least bit shy about being open with others about how you choose to live it. That's such a breath of fresh air in my opinion.


You can expand on even sexual preferences and the like, and try different foods, drink, thrill rides....the list is endless you know lothiriel. Your mention of trying haggis is a good example of trying something outside the box. Now you know to never try it again....lol.


I personally have never been into domination of any sort. That said, I have fantasized about it before.....playing both roles, depending on the mood, and who I'm with. Life is far too short and precious to limit ourselves to just doing what's "comfortable" all the time......Once we reach an age where we are not capable of enjoying new things, or our health limits us to even try, then it's too late.....and we may be left with a nagging thought of wonderment of "what ifs.......". My "what ifs" are few......and I'm hoping to still enjoy most, if not all, of my not-yet-tried

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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 2:12pm

I really, genuinely enjoy life, you are correct about that, and I don't see any reason not to share that with people. I see so many people out there (and most of my family) who just seem to trudge through life dwelling on what burdens them and on what they think society demands of them. To me, thats very said because they're missing out on the true essance of the human experience.


I've had alot of health problems in my life, spent alot of time in hospitals when I was younger. I think having gone through such things has made life a little more precious to me. I understand that this incarnation is fleeting and that I need to make the most of it while I am here. The hard part for me was breaking free of the peremeters my parents set for me and realising that while I need to respect the way they live their lives I also need to live mine in a way that is right for me. Regardless of whether or not that contradicts what was ingrained in me as a child.


As for the domination. It's something I had wanted for a very long time and didn't allow myself because of what I was taught when I was younger. Getting past that was a big moment, and a very liberating one. I get judged for it, but you know what, it doesn't change how I feel about it or the way I look at it. To me, it is an incredably beautiful thing to experience regardless of others opinions.


You are correct that there are endless things to experience in life. I have a laundry list of things I want to try and do, and will do when the time presents itself. I don't believe in regret and I believe that everything we do and everything we've experienced makes us who we are, and I wouldn't trade that for anything ~smile~

Lothiriel


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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 2:35pm

I'm sorry you had some health issues growing up. I was fortunate that way.....nothing major. I was always getting in trouble....be it school, the law, you name it, I did it, and usually the wrong way in most people's eyes.


If you knew me, you would know how much I love life.....I have never been cheated when it comes to trying new things, or always looking at the glass as half full. I have never cared what anyone thought of me except for my mom, dad